How long did it take for you to negotiate a parenting plan? My partner has been in negotiations with his ex for 7 month
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How long did it take for you to negotiate a parenting plan?
My partner has been in negotiations with his ex for 7 months. They are healthy, happy children who have no issues and do well in school and have several out of school activities each they both enjoy. They have agreed on access timing and 95% of the points but she is insisting on a point being included that states "provide a safe and nurturing environment" and both us believe that it far too open to interpretation and that she only intends to manipulate the point to gain some advantage over the final parenting plan. I dont want to go into the whole story but she has not conducted herself above board and in the most honest way going through these proceedings and we have real cause for concern that she has some sort of hidden agenda.
I would love to hear if anyone is going through the same thing or has worked out a parenting plan with their ex and what it entailed and how long it took.
Thanks!
My partner and his ex have been separated for 4 years and she requested the parenting plan be reviewed in January when he asked her for a divorce and financial settlement. Its now nearly the end of July and the Parenting Plan is still being "negotiated". She stormed out of mediation and refuses to engage in that process. She is refusing to address the financial settlement or divorce until the Parenting Plan is finalised.
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4. That the parents are to consult with each other about decisions to be made in the exercise of their equal shared parental responsibility and shall make a genuine effort to come to a joint decision. They are not, however, required to consult with each other about the daily care of the children. The types of decisions about which parents are required to inform and consult include but are not limited to:
4.1 changing the name of a child;
4.2 relocating the residence of a child so that existing parenting arrangements become impractical;
4.3 changing the school of a child; and
4.4 any significant medical intervention for a child.
a) the MOTHER shall be responsible for the daily care, welfare and development of the children when the children are living with or spending time with her; and
b) the FATHER shall be responsible for the daily care, welfare and development of the children when the children are living with or spending time with him.
I hate how people try to lie and make life difficult
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Not paranoid.
And common sense throughout this entire process has not prevailed sadly. I had read all correspondence and throughout all of it she frequently writes 1-3 pages of how pissed off and victimised she is and then gets to the parenting plan. She has added and then taken back so many points. To say the negotiation has been chaotic and vindictive would be an understatement.
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"Provide a safe a nurturing environment" should come as standard
If she can use it for an open interpretation then so can you
It concerns me a bit that you don't want to be glued into a contract that ensures you keep your children safe and nurtured...
I also agree with the comment above, stay out of it.
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Have asked for elaboration and she wont say it encompasses anything specific or give even a written definition of what that point will encompass.