My BIL and his partner, plus their two children live in absolute filth and want to host Christmas at their house - that would mean sleeping over Christmas eve and staying until boxing day, when we visit, my kids and I can't even stay more than a couple of hours because it's so disgustingly dirty and the smell is horrendous, the time we do spend we stay mostly in the backyard which is full of cigarette butts, knee high weeds and rubbish.
I do love them all as people but the truth is I would not touch any food made in their kitchen for anything, I'm not a snob and I'm not exagerrating it's truly so bad.
My husband said yes to them and so I tried to convince every one kindly to just come to ours instead, this backfired and Bils partner was furious, she thinks I want to "hog" hosting Christmas so I gave in because I didn't want to hurt her feelings with the real reason.
How do I get out of this mess now? My skin is already crawling and my kids don't want to go.