Don’t get married, don’t have kids. It’s a trap- all men are pretty much the same, they want you to work and do half their traditional role( financially provide) while you also continue doing all the other shit women traditionally do. You’ll feel like you’re not reaching full potential career wise whilst also being a shitty mother because you can’t make home made cakes and volunteer at school ( like all the other mums do apparently). Children are demanding, ungrateful and never listen. Don’t have them and don’t work with them. Be the cool Aunty who travels the world and turns up everyone and then with cool presents and wacky tales to tell.

It won’t last forever. It may be tough and you’ll attempt to take your own life twice but trust me - you’re now sitting in your own home with a beautiful partner & two gorgeous kids, opening up your second business. You made it. Everything then means nothing now.

Stay in school and go to university, find a job you love and don't settle!

Pursue your chosen career, and save wisely. If you give up at the first hurdle you are going to be left wondering for the rest of your life. Save your pocket money - it will make the start of your adult life easier and you will better for it.

Go to Japan before you go back to New Zealand. You’ll never find your way back if you don’t

you are really goodlooking and "cool", my god how can you think otherwise?

It took me living in Europe to discover this. My friends here were very wall paper like and I thought you had to be bone thin or cutesy to be this. Now as I am older I realise I was never going to fit in here, and it is not a bad thing when those friends are only capable of talking about home renovations and shallow crap, incapable of being honeat or real. Each to their own, but when it is all you hear broadcasted it is hard to feel happy here when you don't share the same view.

Brace yourself baby girl. You’re in for a hell of a ride. Those petty irrelevant things you worry about now (16) will be nothing but a drop in a very big ocean

Don't trust anyone. They are often not what they seem.

Be confident in your abilities and be comfortable with doing what’s right for you.