What do you think of people inviting themselves to come on your holiday?
Answered 5 years ago
My brother has invited himself on our first ever major family holiday to the states next year along with his whole family. Now I don't even want to go! Im so stressed about it and crying. First world problems I know! I feel so guilty for feeling like this but I am stressed around him at the best of times as he's not easy to get along with, wants everything his way, his wife is a diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder and they argue constantly. It's my family's first time overseas ever! I dont want to save for a year just to have a nightmare stressful holiday. I also like quietness and calm not chaos, i need alone time every day to process and don't know how we will negotiate around a group of 14 people travelling together! What would you do? Would u speak up and say this was supposed to be a special holiday for immediate family only or suck it up? I don't know why people think it's appropriate to invite themselves along?
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I think with your description of him and his wife I would NOT go on holiday with them. It will totally ruin it for you.
My exs daughter was narcissistic, anti social personality disorder.
Was just a walking nightmare.
They create chaos to make themselves the center of attention, and if you are on an overseas trip with one, you are trapped. You cant walk out.
All that money spent for no benefit to you ...... NO NO NO.
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I do understand. I'm like you & my in-laws were hinting to go with us somewhere next year (they want me to do all the work). DH was thinking it was a marvelous idea so I switched his interest to a different destination they would never want to go. Sounds underhanded but if you knew my in laws you'd understand completely why it's a 'hell no!'
You have a few options. 1) go as planned, with brothers family. 2) Fess up, tell brother you've been planning this as a special family holiday to bond & go were the feeling takes you & not need to keep a whole group happy. 3) Tell a white lie & say you can't go anymore, work or health reasons. But continue to plan & go anyway.
I have traveled with a group & it was great. I've also traveled with people who like to splash cash around eg whole table food & drink bill, when not really fair on all.