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You need to take control of your household.
I can’t deal with loud noises either.
You need to tell your kids that between a certain period of time is quiet time and they need to go either play with something quietly or in there room.
Over dinner you can talk to them and ask about there day and then give them the attention and love they need from there mother.
My son panics with loud noise and I find it hard to listen to also. I found anxiety medication helped me but I’m sorry I don’t know what to suggest. I just hope you can take some breaths and find a way to deal with it as best as you can. Goodluck
Get some of those earplugs they sell for autistic kids- they’re discreet and you’ll still hear what’s going on, just at a reduced level.
Im not a doctor, but i dont think this is anxiety, i feel the same way (i have 3 kids) this is just ‘life’ and it can totally suck most of the time, especially when you have kids (and life) to wrangle.
Get yourself some ear protection (im serious!) like what you wear when your mowing the lawn (not that ive done that b4! Lol) ..... i use these and its the best thing i ever did for my sanity! Seriously- give it a go- it will give you calm and you can still hear what’s going on, you just wont be terrorised by it!! ❤️
It may not just be because you have anxiety.
Four kids going at me all at once used to drive me crazy.
Mine were 9, 10, 6, and 16. Fortunately miss 16 was a girl, and she was happy to help mother miss 6, which made it easier.
You need to let them know the noise gets to you, that there are 4 of them and only one of you.
And you have only one set of ears and one brain.
If they all yell over top of each other you won’t be able to hear each of them.
So they need to take it in turns to download the days activities.
With 4 kids you need to use some of the crowd control tactics that teachers use, basically.
I suggest giving each of them 10 minutes, in reverse birth order, so youngest first. Reason for that is youngest have the biggest trouble with containing themselves, and applying self control.
Easiest to persuade the older ones to wait, and have them understand why it has to be one by one. Stick to the 10 minutes each, so no one feels neglected.
You just have to exert some control on the situation to make it manageable for yourself.
After the 10 minutes each, they have all been heard, and the rest of the group interaction should be more comfortably interactive. And a lower volume.