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How much older is too much?

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I have been on a few dates with a 49 year old. I am 28. I really like him but am worried the age gap is too much. Especially as his daughter is 26 so almost my age.


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4 months ago
I am 45 and my partner is 25
My kids dad is 60

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4 months ago
My mother in law is 69 and father in law 55
Married 30 years

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4 months ago
I’m not sure about this one to be honest. While I think it’s fine to date older men/women my worry is that you are in really different life stages.

At 50yrs old, with grown up children he may not want more children. Do you have children? Would you like some? Also, do your life goals align? At 28yrs old, you literally have the world at your feet whereas he already has lots of life experience and will possibly be looking at retiring/winding things back within the next 10 years.

I think it’s fine to date and have fun, but in the longer term you’d both need to have a chat and make sure that you were on the same page about your expectations.

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4 months ago
I think older guys are usually more mature and know how to treat a girl better!

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4 months ago
There are plenty of beautiful women his age who are single...my question would be why don't any of them want him and why does he think a 20 something would be interested in him? Red flags of an unrealistic narcissist.

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4 months ago
He was with his ex wife for 27 years until she cheated. We met literally while waiting at the grocery store he started a convo with me and we got on really well. He then just asked me on a date it was honestly super sweet.

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4 months ago
Good for you babe ❤

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4 months ago
I'm 45, my boyfriend is 61. I'm not much older than his children. They have no problems with us. My children are younger than his and they don't have a problem either. We have been together for almost two years and get along really well. We have never had an argument or a fight. He is also in better condition than me, health wise. If you are both happy then go for it and stuff what anyone else thinks.

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4 months ago
That would be too old for me but do whatever you feel is right for you. I'd be more concerned about having things in common & if you can have decent conversations together.

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4 months ago
Our conversations are great and it is really easy to talk to him!

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4 months ago
Then you have your answer

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4 months ago
I am 71 and my wife is 52. We have a very loving relationship, our sex live as no peaked st all. She doesn't have to care for me. Love works in many strange ways. So enjoy your life.

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4 months ago
I would never date a guy that much older than me! Like when you're in your 60s he'll be in his 80s. You'll end up as his carer and have to look after him rather than enjoy that time when you should have just retired

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4 months ago
Not necessarily. Plenty of healthy 80 year olds around. Some are even healthier than 60 year olds.

And anyway, OP isn’t talking about settling down with him. She’s wondering if she should date him.

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4 months ago
I’m 29 my husband is 44 what works for you both is what matter

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4 months ago
Are you both single? Do you have connection? Do you have commonality? If the answer is yes, then what does age matter