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Has anyone made a huge decision, and not discussed it with their partner first?

Answered 2 years ago

I have gone back to part time from full time work, my husband doesn't know yet, am a bit nervous to tell him.

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2 years ago
I had an abortion.

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2 years ago
Me too.

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2 years ago
How do you get away with not telling them? Genuinely curious.

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2 years ago
It was at 4 weeks so it was pretty easy? He didn’t even know I was pregnant.
I knew his stance on abortion and knew I’d be pressured to have it, he cheated on my literally the week I found out and then had the abortion (which I found out 2 weeks later) so it all worked out in the wash and have zero regrets. I do sometimes wonder what if (end ended up getting back together and have 3 kids now)

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2 years ago
I think it's wise to just have an abortion without telling the father. A woman is being sued for having an abortion in the usa.

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2 years ago
A couple years ago I actually bought a horse without my husband knowing lol I agisted it on another person’s property and he never found out - not to this day lol

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2 years ago
How do you hide a horse? Don't you need to spend loads of time exercising the horse and stuff lol. Sneaky

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2 years ago
Why do u ask?

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2 years ago
Because she's just gone from FT work to PT work and not told hubby.

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2 years ago
First one was fostering a child. But in my defence we hadn't been together long and that had been my plan before I knew him. But l still didn't consult him in anyway. And second was moving towns. I just kind of told him that was what was happening and he could either stay or come. Again, only been together less than 12 months.
When I write it here they seems pretty selfish, but they were things that myself and my children wanted and their future was more important I guess.

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2 years ago
I separated our finances without telling my husband. He has an expensive hobby, one that uses all savings. I worked out how much half the living expenses are and we paid half each, keeping anything left over. It's great I don't have to beg for money, and he is home a lot more.

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2 years ago
I brought a house without telling my husband hahaha. To be fair we knew we wanted to buy a house and land package in this certain area, but when it was released we missed out. We were both devastated. 3 weeks later hubby went away for 2 weeks (out bush with the army so I couldn't contact him). I took my mum down to show her the area and the house we wanted. And there was 1 back on the market. So I put the deposit down. Hubs came back 2 weeks later to my news hahaha. He was so happy though.