Think of it from your Aunties perspective. On top of knowing shes dying everyone avoids her. How alone she must feel.
She is still her, whatever she looks like on the outside.
This would be one of the worst things about dying from illness; feeling totally pushed out by the living.
A friend of mine told me that once everyone in the small town where he lived knew he was very sick with cancer, they would see him coming down the street, and they would scoot down a side street, so they didnt have to face him when they did not know how to handle it, and what to say to him.
Be the better person here. Yes it will be tough. But remember it is your Auntie who you probably had great times with who would love to see you.

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Think how you like to be treated if you were leaving this world.....also you sound like a selfish bitch

Because dying people are people with feelings. The real question is why are you afraid?

My uncle died recently. I didn’t get the chance to say goodbye because he passed away very suddenly. You have the opportunity to tell your Aunty what you mean to her. You won’t get it again.

What does how she look have to do with it? Maybe she wants to say goodbye. Maybe your mum thinks if you don’t, you will regret it. You can’t get this time back. If you’re unsure, you should just go.

You should go and stay for as long as you can handle. Sometimes we just want to protect ourselves from more hurt and just remember the people we love when they were fit and healthy. You may well regret it, she’s not going on a holiday and coming back, unfortunately she’s dying and not coming back. If she’s still verbal etc she might be asking about you. I don’t think you’re mother is being pushy she’s just being mum, I’m assuming you are one too therefore you should understand her pov.

So she is burnt to a crisp?