Am I being fair?
Answered 1 year ago
I can give too many details but the short is, my husband and I are splitting.
450k came from my parents, we have a 150k mortgage and the house has gained 170k in value.
The 450 legally he can’t touch (I won’t go into specifics, but he cannot get at this money, yes I am 100000% sure.)
After we pay off the mortgage we would be left with 180k to split.
My offer to him tomorrow is going to be I’ll pay him out 140k.
I’m now second guessing as I’m wondering if that’s fair?
Should I just give him 180 and be done knowing that I’m getting the house so I’m getting the lions share. But kinda not really cos the 450 wouldn’t be there is not for me so should it be redundant?
I think we can be amicable and I’m trying to make sure it stays on good terms.
We’ve set up the kids arrangement with ease. And ultimately have agreed it’s best not to sell the house and said we’d talk details tomorrow.
Should I just let him talk first? And go from there?
I wonder if nitpicking over 40k is even worth a potential problem with him feeling ripped off.
Have an answer?
So let's then look at the 180K left over. Technically, he is only entitled to 90 of that. So, if you go in with that mindset, you can then negotiate it to however you want.
Yes I know technically it should be split 50/50 but I kinda feel like me keeping the house gives him more cash and he’s better able to secure a good apartment with a small enough mortgage to mean he wouldn’t be forced to have roommates.
I can’t go into too many more details for fear of being found out, but let’s just say, I don’t pay to live in our current house and never will. This property became an investment when that opportunity came up.
Which is why I also feel like I should give him extra because I will be fine financially, he will go from easy street to kinda struggling. I don’t want to see him struggle but I also don’t want to be financially responsible for him anymore.
But I want him as our kids father to live well enough. I’m worried I’ll end up a push over in divorce as I was in the marriage.
But I also do want to be a little generous.
I don’t know my heads a mess right now. It hasn’t been for the last two weeks leading up to this talk.