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Is it time to leave as nothing will change? Husband had an affair 9 moths ago

Answered 2 months ago

Husband got caught having an affair with a girl that knew our 2 year old child and knew me and that I was heavily pregnant. He got caught on our babies first night home. For the last 9 months he has hardly apologised or shown any respect or empathy for me. He just lazily spoils our toddler when he pleases but does have a close relationship with her. He has shown little interest in our baby girl. It’s been 9 months now and he finally come to counseling with me. We have had 1 meeting and from that it was he wanted a months break and time to see if he missed me? Wtf yes. So he is living just up the road and comes sees the toddler as he feels to feed her a bag of lollies. Ontop of having a toddler and baby I have been shocked by what’s happened and traumatised and anxious and exhausted etc. I am on antidepressants and have had months of therapy. I am going to start doing mindfulness. I have been listening to podcasts if anyone has any suggestions of any good ones at all. I know I should leave but I just can’t seem to bring myself too at this stage. Is there any hope for us to work it out or is all hope gone?


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2 months ago
That sounds horrible and I'm not surprised you are in shock. I do think a part of shock is denial here and I feel like you r husband is not nearly half the man for you. I would feel he is preparing to move on and I think you need to somehow mentally start to prepare for this. You need to be very strong to face the truth of your situation, hope is not going to help you now or in the long term. Be open , you have nothing to hide from friends and be honest with your emotions, you don't have to be Stepford wife he. I assume you are vulnerable financially, but there is value in speaking up and saying that to him

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2 months ago
It's definitely time to leave sorry hun. He is destroying you. He's moved it out and still making no attempt with you and more than likely got someone with him. Sorry hun but he's not coming back. Take control and leave him. It'll be the hardest thing you'll ever do but end up being the best thing. Tell your family, tell your friends and get support. You deserve better than this and you can do this!! Best of luck.

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2 months ago
Leave I stayed for years trying to make it work. It doesn’t stop. He started seeing escorts and massage and got sneaky, blamed me and was violent. No thanks now I’m happier than ever