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Why do some married mothers have affairs when they seem to be happy with our/husbands

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1 year ago
I just wanted to live a life less ordinary.
I felt there was a huge void that needed to be fulfilled so even though I was happy I needed to screw up my life following BS you can have it all dreams.

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1 year ago
Give it time. If you felt a void there was one. You see it as a mistake now but don’t dwell look forward and regain your self confidence.

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1 year ago
You'd be surprised how many couples have an open marriage

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1 year ago
I’m always suspicious of this. I met a man who clearly had an open marriage and well mine is extremely closed 😂 Anyway this gentleman developed very deep feelings for me and I for him. It was tough walking away but I really couldn’t be with someone who was half in and half out.

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1 year ago
The forbidden is very erotic.

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1 year ago
Attention whores???

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1 year ago
My husband resents me because I have dropped my career looked after our children and then stepped back in and got promoted to a higher level than him, earning more. Sometimes you just want to be with your equal. I haven’t had an affair. I am assessing things and if there is no love left I will leave and live in my own. The only thing holding me back is not wanting to disrupt my daughters final school year.

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1 year ago
I have a crap job, my partner earns tge big money but we both value each other as equal. It's not about money, or power or title. It should be about each other.

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1 year ago
I don’t have a problem that he earns less, I have a problem that he is not ambitious. As a result of his ambivalence to his career and family life I do the heavy lifting on both fronts. Perhaps you do more of the caring and so in a sense the workload is evenly distributed in my relationship it is not - that is what I resent. My equal is someone who values me enough to put in on at least one area of life. I have had to console kids because he didn’t lift a finger whilst I drive them from one sport to another.

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1 year ago
^ this response really resonates with me. I also feel like I do the heavy lifting at both ends.

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1 year ago
I think open marriages are more common than you think. I’m in one but have no lover at the moment by choice.

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1 year ago
Maybe they look happy from the outside but they are actually really not happy at all.

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1 year ago
People will lie and tell you they're happy when they're not. It's all keeping up appearances.

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1 year ago
Or it’s the lie they tell themselves- or they just wake up one day

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1 year ago
Fake it til you make it

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1 year ago
This is me. From the outside looking in I have a pretty good life and other then my husband not doing housework etc people think he's fabulous and a great father and our relationship is one to aspire to. Right now I am getting over a somewhat affair with a work colleague and I am struggling big time. We never slept together or done anything other then a slap on the arse in real life. We did however send photos, videos and masturbated together while on video calls. He made my heart race, he was actually interested in having a normal conversation with me and we talked ALOT about all sorts of things, it wasn't just dirty talk. All the things my husband doesn't do. Yes we've done therapy before anyone asks. Lockdown has made the situation even worse. My life is pretty comfortable, he's not violent or abusive but I'm living on autopilot purely because I grew up with a financially struggling solo mother, it was horrible. I don't want my kids to have to go thru that. We don't argue or put each down so kids are none the wiser. I just want someone who actually likes me.... I want to feel like I'm appreciated.... I want to feel desired.... I want to love and be loved.... That is why. 😔

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1 year ago
Maybe they aren't happy, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

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1 year ago
Adventure perhaps.

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1 year ago
Sometimes I think there must have been something missing in their lives when they were growing up and they need to fill some void they think still exists.