Feeling lonely
Answered 5 years ago
I have been single for 9 yrs. I chose to be single for 7 yrs to focus on my kids, their well being, and pulling myself together after being left high and dry financially and emotionally by my ex. The past 2 yrs I decided I would love to have a man in my life. Have tried dating sites and real life. After meeting a guy and the second of time of seeing him, I wander off and go back to my own thing. Havent had a connection with anyone, except one man. He is lovely, we have become friends for over a year now and I can seeing myself being more than friends and in a long term relationship with him. But he doesnt want more than friends. I havent pushed anythong more with him and kept it as friends. Oh I oh so want this man. I have met up for coffee or dinners with other guys. But feel nothing except wanting to get away and find myself comparing them to this wonderful man. How do I get past the wanting more and comparing others? Or how do I get this man to want more with me?
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See a shrink
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You are rude
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I was single for 4 years and fixed myself in that time. Now I’ve found someone I am falling in love with and I find myself having to stop the unrealistic expectations and selfish traits I picked up when I was single. It’s weird to share my bed and it’s strange to have someone else make plans, but now I’ve let go a little I am finding it easier.
With your friend you probably find it ideal because you can keep your routine while having your emotional needs met. It’s the best of both worlds.