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Why is it so hard to get close to people these days?

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5 years ago
I'm happy to chat with people and wouldn't be rude, but I'm not really looking for new friends. If it happens naturally, sure, but I'm not interested in having catchups with people who aren't already in my friendship circle. I'm happy to see them at playgroup etc but that's it.

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5 years ago
I have really low self esteem. You may be really nice and want to talk to me. But I’ll be wondering why someone as nice as you would want to talk to someone as boring and ugly as me. And I’d be thinking you’ll probably just stab be in the back anyway like others have. So I won’t let you get close just incase you hurt me.

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5 years ago
This is me too, i didnt always be this way, but people have tortured me pretty much my whole adult life and now i just dont bother with anyone any more. Every now and then someone will come into my life who could be a genuine friend but i usually push them away as i feel its only a matter of time before they use and/or abuse me.
I am quite lonely though so i wish i could somehow make one good friend or find someone to love me and for me to love them.

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5 years ago
Same. Everybody I have ever gotten close to has either just decided they were done with me after a while and just stops interacting with me so I give up trying to make friends.
In my experience people don’t want real anymore, people want admirers not friends. People genuinely don’t care about anybody else but themselves.

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5 years ago
Yes same here! It's sad but true.
So many people have become a friend then dropped me suddenly. I used to think it was because I was shy and perhaps a bit reserved, however I've started to learn that some people are just focused on themselves and don't think beyond their immediate circle.

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5 years ago
i wish the above two commenters were not right, what a sad sad place

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5 years ago
Social media. As the pp above said, people are obsessed with fake. Pretending to be perfect. Social media really perpetuates that. If you actually got to know them, them you’d see their flaws and that is something people are ashamed of now more than ever. Such a shame we have gone this way as a society.

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5 years ago
Everything is about instant gratification these days. Taking time to get to know someone takes too long.
Superficial, instantaneous, fake. That's the world we live in.
I don't want you to get to know me because then you'll see how fake my real life is compared to the life I portray is. Etc