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What can i do to prove my husband is having an emotional affair?

Answered 8 months ago

The signs are all there!! Hes always on the phone h e is very distant picks fights and turns them onto me as if he is the victim. He told me not long ago he neefs time to love me again after an argument. And ive been told in 2 readings he is talking to some other lady at work. Hes just doing really well at covering his tracks and i need to ge t it all out as i have 4 kids youngest 9 months!!! He denies everything and tells me he loves me and he would never do that but actions are speaking louder than words. What can i do?


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8 months ago
My ex cheated on me. I felt I needed to prove it to get him to stop. It didn’t work. He kept it up but got better at hiding it. Proof won’t give you closure and it won’t help you heal. Gathering it and trying to change someone who is able to lie to you so easily will take away your time and energy. If you don’t trust him and he doesn’t respect you enough to be honest with you then it’s time to walk away now. You have nothing to prove to anyone.

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8 months ago
Im sprry ypu had to endure that sort of pain. I only want proof for the courts to keep my kids away from him. I dont believe they need that sort of role model if he is cheating. After i divorce him i will be happy on my own with my kids. I will never need another man in my life ever.

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8 months ago
I just had my millionth argument today with my husband about how he lies to me and how I have lived in a sad marriage for 36 yrs. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It really hurts to feel so disrespected to never be loved enough to be told the truth. All I know is my husband lies about big and little things in life. He doesn’t care, if it keeps him from being accountable to himself, me and/or marriage he doesn’t care. HE LIES!! I have been miserable all my married life!!! Don’t be stupid like me. I stayed with my husband because we had 3 children and a lot of good things going for us. Big house, lots of money, fancy trips..etc. I used to think I was loved, but money doesn’t bring you love. TRUST and HONESTY does. I suggest to you, to ask your husband to go to a CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE COUNSELOR.If he says yes, well then that’s a good start. If he says NO then I would hire a detective, trust me it won’t take long, if your suspicions are correct. Then I’d lawyer up!!! Don’t sell yourself short or your children . They are too precious to not have the very best from both of you. I’m old and basically the good years are gone for me and I regret not facing the facts and moving on. Bottom line for me , I saw the writing on the wall but I chose to ignore it all. I knew if he could lie to me about small things, then he could lie about having an affair. Chances are if you just ask him, he is going to lie , he might even be lying to himself , so take it on yourself to find out, get a private detective, or put a tracker out on your husbands car and stick it under the hood, download a tracking system on his phone, ask him to take a lie detector test , go to counseling and stay true to yourself. I hate to say it, but if he is doing this to you, he is nothing less than a liar and a cheat and it is a character flaw that he might not be willing or able to change. So you will have to make a huge decision to live a lie and be miserable like I did, or get out of the hell you live in!

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8 months ago
follow your own advice hun, fight for yourself

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8 months ago
I believe he is still around bc of the kids and the loss of assets if we were to split and if i left he couldmt handle it if i was happy. But as religious as we are i cant allow my daughters to think its ok to live like this. Or my son to think its ok to trea t women like this ond day.

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8 months ago
Ask yourself, do you think you can be happy again?

You have 4 kids including a baby, life is pretty stressful.

I would then invite him to a counceling session after you have had a few yourself and get it all out on the table.

He has told you what most people would love to hear ' he loves you and would never do that ". He may be saying what you want to hear but he might also be truthful.

Asking the opinion of people who do not know either of you should not determine your future. Seek professional guidance. Work on getting back on track or work on breaking up amicably. Either way I think you should seek assistance.

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8 months ago
Im very confused. Have asked for marriage counselling and laughs in my face. I have one foot out the door and im feeling very lost. I will be hiring a private investigator and if i find he is up to no good hes made his bed he can sleep in it. Regardless if i have the kids i will never allow him back. I just fear he will hurt me physically as if he lost 75% of everything he will have nowhere to go and i feel he will seek revenge on me. He cannot handle the kids for longer than an hour now if he had to have them for a whole weekend who knows what he would do to them. I fear for all of us if i had to walk away. I pray im wrong and he iis genuinley just overwhelmed.

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8 months ago
Who do you need to prove it to exactly? Not yourself because clearly you already believe it, so leave.

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8 months ago
If he has an iPhone clone it to an iPad that’s what I did and boom all out and then I left

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8 months ago
You don't trust your husband, tell him. Your living a lie. This is not what a relationship should be like. Last ditch effort try counseling. I didn't trust one of my partners & i was spot on only i didn't know it yet, something about him was off. He wasn't being honest about anything. Trust your gut but definitely tell him you want marriage counseling take care of the doubt monster on the way out.