Husband hiding money not contributing. Wife pays all. Both working. Anyone experienced this?
Answered 2 years ago
My best friend is a hard working woman and has studied hard to get where she is. She is the main earner in her household however her husband works as well. She pays for ALL bills, rent, groceries shopping and clothing for her children . He contributes nothing at all. In fact, he has been getting extra income from little jobs here and there and has been hiding the money from her. After paying all the bills this month, she has 700 dollars left in her account for her and the family. She was absolutely in distress when she found out that he has 6000 dollars in his account and yet has not helped the family, leaving her to suffer! This has been going on for months of him hiding money claiming that he has no money. Has anyone experienced this? She has not yet confronted him about. I think she should leave him. Sitting back hiding cash while your spouse spends her entire wage on the family and not even offering to help and claiming he has no money is a disgrace!!
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THEN.... thank them for feedback. ANd ask What is important to you? What do you think we could do to get on same page with goals and spending?
My hubby didn't know we were in debt, he had "switched off". We went to counselling (through a church as too broke to afford privately) when I cracked it and then we had weekly report on spending and the debt until it was gone and got on same page. We talked of our childhoods.
Tell your friend to ask him what he wants first and get him to critique here. It's a reverse psych thing... And he might have all these insecurities etc. Turned out my hubby was hiding money and helped his brother and mum and it was wrong but there was a reason for it and I got the reason and forgave him and now we great.
He does not appear to have a drug problem.
I cannot work it out but we got separate accounts few years back because he was spending all the money I was saving and earning, so now it's his own account it's not my business according to him