When you do the shopping take money out via eftpos in the same transaction. Ring a domestic violence hotline and tell them what is happening. Ring Centrelink and get your financial affairs in order. Leave. If you don’t have enough money go straight to the salvos.

Hello, my heart goes out to you. It's a very confusing time, especially with such young children who are dependent on you. You must also be very tired. I have found that if I can take action in practical ways, it helps with the emotional stuff because you feel more in control of something that is often out of your control. So, first and foremost, make sure you put aside some money every week in an account he doesn't know about. Then you will have some funds to buy essentials, bond for a rental etc when you decide it's the right time. Make sure you rest and sleep as much as possible because you are already under stress and you will need energy when you leave. And finally, talk to a friend/s who you KNOW will believe you and be 100% behind your decision to leave. You will need their support at that time too. I wish you all the very best.

Find a nice hiding spot (picture frames and pads/tampon boxed underneath the pads/tampons are good spots) to put some notes. When you get the chance write down on a piece of paper the things he is doing and how you are feeling about what is happening. Read them over and over to yourself. See what he is doing to you, see how he is making you feel. Eventually leaving won’t be heartbreaking but liberating.