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Answered 4 years ago

So far iv adopted a “what will be will be” mentality.
But my husband just got home and is laid off. We have food for 3 weeks and some small savings (our nest egg got wiped out 6 months ago.)
I will be out of work while there is a ban in the next few days but mine may not last but I will lose clients.
Our renter is also out of work. And so will our other renters shortly.


It’s the first time iv felt nervous. It’s all happening.
The train is going and there’s no stopping it now.

Uncertain times I can only hope we band together as community and we all help each other stay afloat.


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4 years ago
OP, if you mentioned having renters so you must have investment properties? Worst case scenario wouldn’t you have the option to sell one of you needed to to free up some money?

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4 years ago
Exactly sell. Before the market takes a dive because mark my words
➡️IT WILL⬅️. People are kidding themselves if they think it wont.

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4 years ago
If people keep getting laid off what other options are there? I’m seeing a few homes in our area being out up for sale before the market drops.

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4 years ago
One of the renters in on our property.
The other is our old house. The mortgage is low and in a prime position beachside so it would be silly. In 6 years time we should be retired off those incomes.

Yes we are in a far better position than most. I was struggling that day because I was teetering on the choice to close my work and put 24 people out of work.
Once I made the choice we’ve had the most wonderfull stress free week together and I haven’t thought about it much.
It is what it is and I know if we end up running out of food we will find a way.

I was just feeling very stressed when I wrote this

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4 years ago
I’m not convinced that housing prices will be strong in 6 years....

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4 years ago
No offense but I think people have been brainwashed to think house prices keep going up no matter what. But I think this is a massive what. i haven't seen anything like this in my lifetime, this is up there with world wars. You can't get anything more massive than this.

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4 years ago
No we don’t intend to sell it We will own it out right in 6 years, and live off the rental income.

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4 years ago
Tell her she's dreamin

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4 years ago
Don't be jealous

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4 years ago
Really struggling mentally. We were supposed to be leaving on an overseas holiday today. Instead I'm still trying to fight to get refunds.

I was made to feel guilty by a worker from DD's daycare/kindly for pulling her out because bit affects their jobs & the centre might not survive. I feel bad enough about disrupting her early childhood education!

I'm panicking about home schooling. DS's teacher is a hard task master & he's autistic & fights change all the way. DS doesn't have close friends to Skype but loves social contact so how will he cope?

My parents are stressed mentally & I'm wearing that burden through phone calls & am expected to do their shopping, online stuff etc. How with small children I don't know! I'm terrified DF will not survive a diagnosis of corona.

I still have to carry the burden of everything else - food, cleaning etc. because FH is working long hours. I get no me time, everyone listens to their music, makes noise, watches their tv. I get no peace to unwind!!

And we've only just started!!!

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4 years ago
I'm so scared, I'm having the worst thoughts nothing cam stop this, nothing we our debts will choke us our mortgage will bury us, we are not going to ride this wave

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4 years ago
Yes you will. Have hope. Banks will have no choice but to freeze repayments.

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4 years ago
Going ok, hating home schooling, avoiding the media.

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4 years ago
Lol.

We just threw homeschooling out.
Enjoying the family time. Reading books. Learning card games . FaceTiming. Painting the house. My kids have been off for two weeks now.

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4 years ago
How old are your kids? Mine are in important years at high school so I can’t let their education slip. It’s hard tho. The online learning programs set by the schools are hard to navigate. I’m going insane.

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4 years ago
I would give up the year and get my kids to repeat that grade next year. Not worth stressing out over. What grade are the high school ones in

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4 years ago
I'm really struggling mentally. My anxiety has been running rampant lately (naturally), and now the dark thoughts are starting to come back. I had the foresight to book a telehealth appointment for the day after my husband goes back to work (FIFO) to discuss the possibility of going on antidepressants. I haven't, and won't be telling him. He has a really toxic view of anyone with mental health issues. Especially of people on medication for it. But the thing is, I would rather get the help I need than head down this very dark path again. I've trudged through the natural methods I've been recommended, and it's not enough.
If the meds don't work I don't know what I'll do.

Until then, I just have to make it through right now. Just survive this moment. The next will take care of itself. He flies back to site tomorrow afternoon, it's only one more day to hold it together, then when he's gone I can cry a bit and wait to talk to the doctor.

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4 years ago
Please do get help. Last year I was suffering terribly with anxiety. I couldn't even get out of bed, I shook when I even tried to stand to make a sandwich. Couldn't swollow, felt like I couldn't breathe, etc. I was in and out of doctors, emergency, and hospital and crying all the time - I never cry. I was convinced I was going to die and no matter how many paramedics, specialists and doctors and even psychiatrists told me I wasn't dying and I had classic anxiety, I didn't believe them. I didn't even want to take medication. I was always against it for myself. Finally, I had no choice and went on low dosage anti anxiety meds. Best thing I did. Within 2 months I could get out of bed again and within 4mths I was nearly back to normal.. My anxiety is health based so I would not be coping at all right now with out my meds. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I still have anxious moments now and then, but it's fleeting now, not constant. Get help, you'll be happy you did.

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4 years ago
Pretty bad. School work was done in less than two hours by my Y2 and Kindy girls, they've done a bit of Reading eggs and now they are watching something on their iPads. My husband is very lucky to have a job, but he is working 13hours per day!
I am in complete survival mode.... and feeling the pressure to be the perfect crafty-baking-playing mum. This is all fucked, I am dying to go to the gym, my favourite coffee shop, the playground for my 2 year old. So, yeah, not doing the best.

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4 years ago
Homeschooling is driving me insane. My two teenagers are at each other all the time. My husbands work is dying off so less money coming in but we don’t receive anything from government because we are not on Centrelink payments. My dog has injured himself so badly, don’t know how, and we may have to put him to sleep on the weekend. My mum is sick and isolating and becoming depressed because she’s all alone. I have to call her constantly so she doesn’t lose the plot. My nan is not well and I’m terrified of her dying and me not being able to say goodbye to her. I’m pretty overwhelmed by everything at the moment.

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4 years ago
Anxiety is through the roof. Wake up at night and can't sleep and feel like I can't breathe.

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4 years ago
Please don't let it go too far. Sending hugs to you babe 💜💜

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4 years ago
I havent lost my job yet (cross fingers) but Im fucking terrified for the older members of my family.

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4 years ago
I'm doing worse than I thought.. At first I was like, this is going to be ok.. Now I'm scared, not sleeping. I have mental health issues, but I recognise when things are going downhill. Considering asking my doctor for something to calm the nerves at night time. It's hard trying to sleep when your brain won't switch off. I feel for my kids, they just don't understand it all. It does help that we are all going through the same thing..

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4 years ago
💕💕💕💕💕 hang in there mumma.

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4 years ago
Beyond blue have 6 free telephone sessions to help. Do speak to your GP too xx

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4 years ago
It's really made me re prioritise my life and see what really is important to me and what's not. Shows us that things can change in an instant no matter how well set up we think we are and really makes me see that being a good person above all else is more important than possessions

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4 years ago
💕💕💕 I love this.
If everyone acts like a community we will get through.
I told my renter to sort him and his family out and come to me with what he has left over and so his rent is now 1/5th till next finds work. And I waived this week completely to get him on his feet.

Iv dropped my santiser off to the school and a few nappies to a friend who had none and couldn’t get it.

If everyone gives what we have to give this will all pass and our communities will show their beauty.

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4 years ago
Trying to avoid the media - just watch a bit of news once the kids are in bed. Mentally starting to worry about the financial implications. Feeling very uncertain and a little like we're on the edge...

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4 years ago
We are

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4 years ago
Yes iv been off my phone all week.

Ironically once the buisness was shut down and hubby laid off it’s now not an uncertainty and what’s done is done. In my head I’m thinking 6 months so anything less will be a bonus.

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4 years ago
I think it’s going to get a lot worse. At first I thought it might be better to get it and then get over it because I was still going into work I thought I would get it in the train. Now I work from home and I’m with my family I don’t want us to get it at all. I’m really careful but my husband has no clue. He is still if I get it, I get it attitude I think it is very selfish of him. We agreed if one of us gets it the other would sleep upstairs on the blow up mattress, it’s very comfortable now he says what’s the point you would already be infected. Wtf the idea is to isolate so you know the kids don’t get it - I’m really pissed at him. I hate ignorant attitudes, watch the news take the advice follow instructions. It’s better not to get it.

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4 years ago
My husband was not taking it seriously enough either. He’s getting it now - the guys at his work are scared for their livelihoods and that shook him up to pay attention.

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4 years ago
Yes I feel like we are in this for the long haul. My best friend is kiwi, she is teetering on letting her lease run up and staying in our guest house till this blows over as it’s still unsure if they will get any assistance.

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4 years ago
We're ok at the moment. I am considering a how to binge on utube though- how to make your own mud hut, how to forage for food in the bush, how to build a hangi...you know just for back up.

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4 years ago
😂😂😂

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4 years ago
We have a moderate amount of self sufficency (were on tank water. Have solar and a generator) have mature fruit trees and lots of veggie gardens. But the veggie gardens have only just been planted.
Hubby is getting stuck into completing our food farm while off work now lol.

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4 years ago
That is my dream. A little property, to be self sufficient with some animals. Still saving away for a deposit we are nearly there but who knows we might have more than enough soon - the future is a big unknown.

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4 years ago
We are living our dream. So we are fortunate than most 💕