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He moved on like I was nothing to him
Answered 5 years ago
It’s been 2 weeks since he called it off. He left me when I told him I wanted to keep the baby then told me he wanted to work it out. He gave up and said it was over. Now he’s with someone new, I feel like I meant nothing to him now. She’s everything I’m not, she’s pretty, out going and she has so many friends. I shouldn’t have facebook stalked her but I did. She says she loves him, he completes her life. He left me and he’s moved on in 2 weeks. He didn’t love me, he lied. He didn’t care, he lied. How could he do this to me? How could he move on so quickly? Why did he lie to me and tell me he loved me when he could easily replace me like that? It hurts, my hearts sunk into my chest when I found out. Why am I never good enough for any man to stick around? I’m so angry, so hurt, so confused, so broken. He didn’t give a fuck about me.
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5 years ago
I'm sorry this happened to you. Something similar happened to me once & it was life changing. It changed me forever. I plead with you to have counseling because you might think you can handle it on your own & maybe you will eventually... but you have a little one coming along soon & they're going to need you to be mentally strong not just holding your shit together temporarily. Stay positive don't let him drag you down because he wasn't worth it.
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5 years ago
Thank you very much for your kind words. I’m already seeing a psychologist and have an appointment for next week. Will be dealing with this to make sure I’m strong for my baby when she enters the world.
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5 years ago
So agree with this reply. Being so vulnerable and with hormones flying, you need extra support. Talk with your doctor, explain what happened and get a mental health plan, to get your referal done to see a counselor or a phycologist. Please look after yourself x
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5 years ago
Thinking of you today! How are you OP??
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5 years ago
Thank you all so very much for every response. When I wrote this I wasn’t expecting so many kind words written and so much love shared. I woke up this morning and it broke my heart to see it but now I’m feeling a million times better because of everyone’s support.
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5 years ago
We've got your back sister 💕
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5 years ago
It might be worth you looking for books on Affirmations. Very useful for building your self esteem and helping you change damaging thinking patterns, and damaging "self talk".
They are available in Spiritualist shops that sell semi precious stones, like crystals. You often find those shops or stalls at country style markets.
They don't replace counselling, but they complement it.
They are available in Spiritualist shops that sell semi precious stones, like crystals. You often find those shops or stalls at country style markets.
They don't replace counselling, but they complement it.
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5 years ago
He probably wasn’t being faithful to you anyways. She was probably already sleeping with him. No loss on your part. Might be why he was so hot and cold. She may know nothing about you.
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5 years ago
You could be right there. I think it might have been going on a while now.
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5 years ago
Yes you can guarantee he was seeing her behind your back.
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5 years ago
Hey, I went through something similar - it really helps knowing that other people can relate to what you're feeling. I promise you, it will get better and yes - social media does not reflect what is really happening behind the scenes. Take care! x
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5 years ago
I know how this feels my exes mother said if he left me she’d buy him a new Xbox. Next Day gone!!!! Then sent me abortion pictures and all
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5 years ago
😱😱😱😱
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5 years ago
Oh God that's disgusting behaviour. Oh well. Good riddance to the mamma's boy. You have freedom ahead of you and what's he got? An xbox and a controlling bitch for a mother. Who's better off now? 😂
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5 years ago
I’m so sorry that happened to you. He was an asshole for choosing a gaming console over you.
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5 years ago
What the actual fuck?
That man is human garbage
Hugs to you
That man is human garbage
Hugs to you
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5 years ago
My heart goes out to you, ive been through a similar thing.
Get off face book!
Look, that woman cant be that great if she is getting involved with someone who is expecting a baby with someone else!
You have dodged a bullet my friend! Be glad this woman has come along now, live your life and leave him firmly in the past.
All men are bad, even the good ones.
Stay strong ❤️
Get off face book!
Look, that woman cant be that great if she is getting involved with someone who is expecting a baby with someone else!
You have dodged a bullet my friend! Be glad this woman has come along now, live your life and leave him firmly in the past.
All men are bad, even the good ones.
Stay strong ❤️
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5 years ago
Yes I feel sorry for the new girl too. The thing to focus on is the guy, he’s likely a mess and moves in because he can’t talk/act/behave like a man and own his feelings or the reality. She is just a distraction for him. Now you have a child you’ve trumped him with the best distraction of all time, meaningful and will give you the best boost you could ask for. There are a number of people I know like you and you’re all amazing women who find your way quickly
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5 years ago
Thank you very much for your kind words and insight. You are so right, bullet dodged and he can do whatever he needs to to distract himself. I’m just going to be happy living my life for me for a while ❤️
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5 years ago
I thought only 15 year olds declared their undying love after a week long relationship. Let them go, you're so much better than that. They will last 5 minutes.
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5 years ago
And block them on social media so you don't have their faces show up to ruin your day x
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5 years ago
Thank you❤️ I have now blocked them and enjoying it
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5 years ago
If she really is as amazing as she portrays on her social media you can be happy knowing she will probably see him for what he is really soon and do him over like he has to you ❤
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5 years ago
I have a feeling she is going to do him a world of good now. He won’t like a lot of what she is like, I went through it more in depth and really shouldn’t have
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5 years ago
I'm so sorry for your hurt and heartbreak. Heartbreak is the worst ♥ and only time will help.
You need to remind yourself it's not you, it's him!
Self reflection can come later at a time you're not drowning in the hurt!
I wish you luck xx
You need to remind yourself it's not you, it's him!
Self reflection can come later at a time you're not drowning in the hurt!
I wish you luck xx
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5 years ago
Thank you for your kind words. Time will help and I am realising that now. I am allowing myself to feel sad and hurt for now but won’t dwell on it too long ❤️
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5 years ago
Stop torturing yourself. Real life and your Facebook life are nothing alike. Most people use Facebook to make their lives appear more glamorous than what they really are. You'd be surprised how it can cover up someone's shitty real life
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5 years ago
You are so right. I did torture myself once more and found out how much she attracts drama. Now I’m not going to torture myself anymore and just know that there was a reason for all of this.
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5 years ago
Hun you're mourning the death of a relationship (albeit a shitty one sided one) Your heart is broken and you have an extremely poor self esteem. None of which is surprising. I went through this a few times myself and to be honest I found a little counselling to be quite beneficial. Just remember. He's an asshole and you're better off without him. Big hug xxx
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5 years ago
Thank you very much. I will speak to my psychologist about this. I hate my low self esteem and it’s all come even lower after this. You are right though, he is an asshole
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5 years ago
It's a good thing he left you. Now you're free to find 'the one' 💕
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5 years ago
Thank you for the positive outlook ❤️
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5 years ago
It is so important to remember that the version of themselves that people project on social media is a highlights reel. It is not an accurate reflection of their actual life.
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5 years ago
Thank you. You are right, it’s a highlight real. It just really got to me that he moved on. She might not be like her social media at all, just like all the filters she uses might make her look different, she might not be what she projects either. I really needed to read this, thank you.
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5 years ago
I really feel your pain! My ex husband left me after 18 years of marriage. I have posted here before how I moved out and they moved in together a day later!
It hurts, I couldn’t eat or sleep.... but it gets better and you are worth so much more than that man could ever give you and your baby! So cry it out, but get up and take care if yourself. Eat healthy, go for walks, do not FB stalk them as that will just make you feel bad again. Concentrate on you and your child! Do you have someone to talk to? Big hug!
It hurts, I couldn’t eat or sleep.... but it gets better and you are worth so much more than that man could ever give you and your baby! So cry it out, but get up and take care if yourself. Eat healthy, go for walks, do not FB stalk them as that will just make you feel bad again. Concentrate on you and your child! Do you have someone to talk to? Big hug!
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5 years ago
I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for the wonderful advice. I think I’m going to just cry it out for a bit then pick my ass up and keep on moving. Might stay off Facebook for a while too so the temptation to stalk them won’t be there. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this. It’s nice having this forum though where I can talk about these things. Thank you again
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5 years ago
He will leave her when he’s bored with her
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5 years ago
This wouldn’t surprise me if he did. Or when his jealousy takes over and he feels insecure.