Should I offer no pressure for the bride to not have me as a bridesmaid as I'll be 38+4 weeks pregnant?
Answered 5 years ago
Hi, I am due to be the bridesmaid for our children's nanny in February.
She recently suffered a miscarriage of twins.
She doesn't know yet but I am actually 15 weeks pregnant. I don't have any sort of belly yet and haven't gained any weight. I usually don't pop until about 25 weeks though. We had twins in there but sadly lost one at 8 weeks. I haven't told anyone yet except my husband as I am still quite worried I might lose this one too as I have a history of first and second trimester losses.
I don't want her to worry that I'll go into labor early and miss out. But I also don't want to miss out. I was on bedrest with my other children due to my weight but I am half the weight I was so I worry about that. It's a wedding out of area also but it's only 5 hours there.
I'm also worried about telling her. Or her day being tainted by seeing me pregnant.
So how on Earth do you say "you can dump me from it if you want" without sounding like you want them too. I just want her to be happy