Is it normal to have such a female friendship with husband?

Answered 4 years ago

Hi, I am sorry for my English I'm not a native, I really need some advices from you in this, first my husband when we got to know each other he told me that he have this female best friend that he love like a sister so I was okay with that even though it's not normal in our culture to have female girl friends outside marriage, but the problem is like before our marriage he told me he and this girl they sometime cuddle and hug on bed but they never had sex and that he does not have sexual desire over herand then he told me that sometimes because of the closeness he got aroused and the girls pushes him when that happens, the thing is like I didn't get over it and started to think if I did a mistake continuing this marriage, he says that he loves me and that she's only a friend and not more than that.
Ah also he said that this girl is asexual but asked him to continue doing this cuddling the hugging even when he's married and ask for my permission that will really drive me insane 🙄

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4 years ago

Absolutely not OK. He is, in reality, just asking for permission to have an ongoing affair with her.
This "we are just friends bit" is just a front for that.
Once he has your "permission" to spend time with her, you have effectively given him permission to have an affair.
He can go see her whenever he likes.
He thinks you are naive, and easily fooled, if he is openly asking for this.
There is no such thing as "friends with cuddles and lying on a bed" with the other sex.
It is "the bit on the side".

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4 years ago

No, it's not normal or acceptable and you know it. Would he be okay with you doing that with another male? I know my husband wouldn't. You have a decision to make, or rather, he does. Best of luck.

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4 years ago

Indian right? I ask from knowing a number of them, and having dated one for many years. He’s not to be trusted. Indians can be , but this type no. He wants to have her on the side, you know it and he’s good with his words but the actions are terrible

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4 years ago

They probably want to have sex with all three of you! (A threesome)

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4 years ago

His behaviour is not ok.

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4 years ago

Why does he need to lie in bed with her to hug and cuddle when he can get that from you? Having a female friend is ok so long as the line is never ever crossed. Hugging and kissing another woman in bed is definitely crossing the line.

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