First time “SiL” issues! What to do!!
Answered 5 years ago
My brother and I are very close, talk daily and basically best friends. He’s been pretty unlucky in love, he loves the crazies but I have ALWAYS made effort and got a long with his partners. He has a somewhat recent girlfriend, 6 months. She’s not been the nicest to our mum (Mum definitely not innocent either tho!). So anyway I was trying to get an idea on things she likes to buy her and my bro an experience gift, her attitude about it rubbed the wrong way and long story short we argued. During the argument she decided to throw some shade my way about money i had borrowed from my brother (before they were even together). I was absolutely livid, it’s none of her business and I actually work for my brother (he’s a small business owner) so I have worked off that money and again not her place! My brother agreed that she was out of line saying that to me and after a row she gave me a half assed apology which I accepted. But! Cont in comments
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I don't know what an experience gift is. But if he has lots of stupid girlfriends like this that come and go, why let it bother you if she'll be out of the picture eventually?
Maybe the pair of you arguing put him in an awkward place, and you know the saying, Happy wife, Happy life.
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Bad vibes, like she is always making comments about them trying for a baby.. it’s been 6 months like calm down and the work thing and now getting in our personal business. I feel like she’s trying to trap him and my bro is desperate for that family unit that I think he’d risk it with the wrong one. Not that she has to be perfect just...I question her motives.
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There's honestly nothing you can do though that won't make it worse.
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Somewhat relevant to this incident is the fact that she recently lost her job and hasn’t looked for work but been trying to take over the job that I do for my brother (basically handling the money side of his business). I feel so off about this whole thing but I’m not sure if I’m being over protective And defensive or if i have legit concerns here?
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Imo I would leave it, keep acting normal with your bro, it will pass. The more attention you give it the more it will escalate. As for gf I guess you don’t have to love her but just tolerate her for the sake of your bro I guess and avoid talking about anything deep. Keep it light and casual.
Yeah that’s where I’m at with him , I’m acting normal, I’ve asked he said he’s fine so good let’s be fine then. He’ll either cop to being pissed or just get over it. I haven’t spoken to her since.