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I dont know what to do...

Answered 2 months ago

My partner never wants to do anything with us as a family (3 children, ages 5, 2 and 1)
I could plan things at least a week in advance but when it comes to it he will be laying in bed until the very last minute to leave or then say he needs a shower and makes us late, he drags his feet and it stresses me out knowing that's what he's going to do every time or that I have to do everything on my own, he always makes it into a huge problem and tells me to go on my own (I don't drive so 99% of the time I can't just get up and go)
Or if I make plans he will then plan something a few days later on the exact same day that will either take time out if our plans or cancel our plans completely
If HE makes plans with anyone else (mainly his friends) he's up and out on time or even early.

There is a lot of other things to this as well not just our plans etc but I won't go into it all...

He doesn't make much effort with us and shouts a lot even over the smallest of things

I honestly feel like he's living a single life but in our house and doesn't want the weight of a family..
I've spoken to him a few times about us splitting up because i cannot take it any more and I'm tired of feeling invalid and unwanted but he just turns it all around on me like I'm the problem or its the "time of month" or says "oh who is he then, there's obviously someone else"

But the truth is I'm just tired of it all and I cannot keep doing it, its bringing me down, I have 3 young children to look after, I don't want to feel like this...

I just need some advice on what to do... we have been together almost 10 years and this has been going on for at least 6 years but its getting A LOT worse the past few months....

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2 months ago
As hard as it'll be, for your own self worth hun you need to leave him.

2 months ago
First thing is get your licence and learn how to drive, that will give you such a new lease on life and independence. Then leave that ass of a man that refuse to grow up. Best of luck!