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Do your kids throw a tantrum in public when you say the word no or do you not use the word no in public ?

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5 years ago
According to attachment theory for positive parenting, all children’s behaviour is either to meet a physical or emotional need. If my kid was throwing a tantrum (for whatever reason) - then it’s likely that either or both of those needs haven’t been met, ie I haven’t done a good job of helping them meet their need - and the tantrum is the only means available to my child. Solution to tantrums - learn how to be a better parent. Ps. Of course I say no to my kids in public - they need boundaries and someone has to be the adult!

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5 years ago
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5 years ago
I prepped my kids before going out. If shopping I would tell them all in the car before moving, "OK guys, we are going to Woolworths for a big shop. I'm only going to buy the things on my list. If you're really good at the end you can have a kinder surpise. If you're naughty we go home and you get nothing." Call it bribery if you like but it works most of the time as long as they know you follow through, 4 kids and I only went home twice. They are teenagers now and they know not to ask me for things in the shop which a lot of teens still do if they aren't taught not to!

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5 years ago
No because they know how to behave, they know if they carry on like that in public they’ll be in big trouble

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5 years ago
This is kinda the sort of attitude that’s not really ... I don’t know the word, kinda like the parent who got an “easy” kid and has advice when others have a few more hurdles.

My kids by 4 were “ideal” kids. I know I’m a great parent and they absolutely know boundaries. They are regualarly complimented on their behaviour. Over the top “good” kids. In school they are the teachers dream kids.
But they’ve both had public meltdowns in younger years. They don’t have them now they are at a appropriate age that reasoning is possible.

My eldest hardly had 5 words at 2 so her tantrums were far more frequent expecially her sleep problems added in.
At 3 she spoke like a 2.3 yo. By 4 she was only 3/4 months behind.

Many things cause tantrums or meltdown beside just acting up or going against “knowing how to behave”

My 1 and 2 ups had to be taught how to behave and sometimes that involved behaving the wrong way.

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5 years ago
My kids were horrible one year olds I regularly left parks of shops with tantrums (my eldest in particular who was a horrible sleeper)
Up until about 2 and a half is when they became infrequent. By 4 they were non existant.

Both of my kids are now extremely polite well behaved kids who need little more than “the look” to knock it off. Which they rarely even get.

I was judged so many time for their public tantrums. Mainly my eldest but in hidndsight she was just so damn tired from never sleeping she could handle life. As soon as she stared only waking once a night her behaviour improved ten fold.
It’s funny how frequent I’m complimented on my kids behaviours now cod often I few like they are the same mums who would have judged me a year ago, it’s usually “how wonderful to see such behavied children in the shops now days!”
Or “your doing a wonderful job as children these days just don’t listen to their parents ! “ (when I’m telling them no and they listen immediately. )
My youngest only had a few bad tantrums in public like literally less than 10. She’s 3 and a half and I can’t remeber the last one. and she has always been a great sleeper so hear were literally just bad days.


A lot of the time public tantrums are developmental, not a bad kid.
Whenever I see a tantrumming kid I just ask the mum, do you need any help? Can I help take the pram back with you??? It’s often no but I know from experience that’s better than the side eyes

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5 years ago
My kids are beyond tantrum throwing age but yes sometimes they did. 🤷‍♀️ Part of being a toddler

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5 years ago
My kids never throw tantrums. I’ll say no but follow it up for a reason. No you can’t have a chocolate because it’s dinner time soon. No you can’t have a toy because it’s your birthday soon and you’ll get toys then. I find that if you give a reason as to why the answer is no, then they’ll understand and not just think you’re saying no because you’re a mean parent. Sure they may be upset by me saying no but they understand I have a reason for it and they don’t get angry over it.

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5 years ago
Haven't had one yet. Praying it never happens.

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5 years ago
I never use the word no in public. It's always not today sweetie/not right now bubba/maybe some other time/jesus I said no/for forks sakes darling I said no/right that's it, we're leaving if you can't behave yourself, I swear to God wait until your daddy hears about this.
😂 but in all honesty my kids rarely tantrum in public. They're usually very reasonable, and aware that I will walk away if they want to throw down. If they need a quiet moment to calm down we'll go to a deserted aisle and calm it down.