Would you end the relationship?
Answered 4 years ago
My boyfriend and I have been together a while, and just at the point where we are planning to move in together and have spoken about getting married. We have a great relationship generally, but not where his family is concerned. We had been together a few months and went to a family bbq. I was getting to know everyone and all was fine until I met his cousin, who I dated and slept with in high school. It wasn't serious and I haven't seen him in years. The cousin was engaged, my boyfriend went to the wedding a few months later but I wasn't invited (which is fair enough). The issue is I don't get invited to any family get togethers if the cousin and wife are there. My boyfriend went to his mum's to celebrate his 30th with family and again I wasn't invited. He said it was a numbers thing, I have asked him to stand his ground but he doesn't think it's a big deal as we are only dating. I'm not sure I want to be dealing with this for ever, which I suspect I will be. Would you just move on?
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"A numbers thing"?? So having one extra person was going to cause the entire event to collapse? No.
If his family are acting like this because you and his cousin dated years ago, then they're all being ridiculous and will continue to do so.
Tell him that if you are going to be shunned by his family you have no future together, Especially at his own celebrations!!!
If you really love him try and fix it, make a special cake or shit when you go to get togethers to make an effort or flowers for the host.
You will no doubt be made feel awkward to start with , keep up the birth control until this shit is well and truly sorted!!!