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I am a 35 year old women and never experienced a orgasm, I am in a relatively new relationship with someone unlike anyon

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I am a 35 year old women and never experienced a orgasm, I am in a relatively new relationship with someone unlike anyone I been with before we have a amazing sex life the best sex and intimacy I have ever experienced.

I thought cause of how I feel ect I might be able to experience a orgasm but I still haven’t. I hear so much talk about how good they are and yet I feel a dud


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2 years ago
You’re not a a dud. Maybe talk to your doctor or a therapist?

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2 years ago
I have and they have said someone women just can’t

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2 years ago
Spend a day playing with yourself until you cum. That will give you an idea of what to do with a partner, use a dildo and play with your clit at the same time, dont stop until you climax... Make it your number one priority to achieve this.... Seriously just keep going DONT STOP till you cum.

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2 years ago
I have tried using toys and a good amount of hours playing but it dosent eventuate, I know it dosent really matter but it is something be nice to experience

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2 years ago
IT DOES MATTER!!!! ONCE YOU EXPERIENCE IT YOU WILL KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS.

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2 years ago
Try the shower head on high on your clit.
It was they way I first climate.
Good luck, also you may be one of the very few who comes with their G spot.
Good luck and have fun!!!

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2 years ago
Few?

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2 years ago
Sorry first time I climaxted.

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2 years ago
Are you on any medication? Some can cause sexual issues.

But you know what, its up to you, if you are really happy with your sex life then its fine not to orgasm as long as your needs are satisfied. its not the be all and end all

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2 years ago
You shouldn't feel like a dud. Orgasms are great, but they're not the only intimacy to enjoy (as you know). Have you tried relaxing with a glass of wine (I only recommend being tipsy to help you relax and not feel anxious about whether you can achieve one or not), sit down with maybe a dirty book or a steamy movie (whatever gets you in the mood), and try to masturbate?
Clitoral stimulation is the most common and perhaps the easiest way to reach orgasm. But you can also try other ways (personally I find when my husband stimulates my anus during foreplay, I orgasm faster).
What happens when you (if you have) masturbated before? Do you find yourself feeling anxiety on whether you're doing it "right"? Do you get distracted by thoughts of other things you could be doing?
Have you ever tried just rubbing your clitorus without the aim of orgasm?

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2 years ago
Thanks I am not anxious or stressed, even when I play by myself It is no different compared to when my new man plays with me I am very much in the mood and into it but nothing happens. I am extremely wet and turned on but no orgasm, it just be nice to experience it