I’m a father who has been in a relationship for 3 months with a single mother who’s child’s dad isn’t on the scene.

I share custody with my ex and see my kids (4&3) for half of the week and there’s nothing more I love than to spend time with them.

My problem is that I don’t enjoy spending time with my partner and her child (5) when I’m not with my kids. Is this me being selfish?

When it’s just me and my partner then that is great but I worry that we don’t get much quality time together due to her lack of custodial support and the fact that she puts her child to be a lot later than I do with my kids. Another factor is that her child appears to suffer with some anxiety so she very rarely leaves her side.

I get the sense that my parter wants me to daddy to her child at some point in the future but I know already that I don’t want that - I’ll never love her kid as much as my own.

Thanks for reading!