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Sexual issues after episiotomy
Answered 5 years ago
I had my last child 4 years ago, I had an episiotomy. Since then, I can’t orgasm the way I used to and sometimes still get pain from the scar. It’s extremely frustrating as I have to be in a certain position and focus really hard to achieve orgasm. It takes the fun out of it causes me to not want to have sex. It’s starting to strain our marriage as my hubby thinks I’m not sexually attracted to him. Has any one else been through this and have any advice to give? TIA
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5 years ago
Hi and thankyou for sharing this I think my wife is the same and I didn't think it was a real thing i thought she doesn't love me any more. I will ask her if she would see a special doctor thanks you ladies
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5 years ago
Get it checked, maybe a nerve was caught when you were stitched up 11 years later and I still get pain but now I have developed a small lump in where my stitches were, but I don’t like doctors lol
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5 years ago
Have you had a doc or gyno have a look to make sure everything is ok and it's not something they can fix?
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5 years ago
No, I know I should, but I always think I’m over reacting or they won’t do anything about it. My old OB always acted as if ‘every woman goes through this after birth, so sick it up’ without even checking on the scar. So I’ve been too anxious to see anyone else about it.
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5 years ago
I highly recommend going to see someone. It could literally change your life 🙂 Do you have any friends that might be able to recommend a good doc? I didn't have an episiotomy, but had minor tears both times. And both times I had to go to an ob gyn a couple months afterward and get granulation tissue removed and restitched with one (the second time was so minor it didn't need to be stitched again thankfully). There is no way I would have had more sex if I'd left it.
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5 years ago
Your old OB sounds like a grumpy old hag. Definitely seek a second opinion.
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5 years ago
I had an episiotomy and a severe third degree tear, my daughter is 7 and I still find some positions uncomfortable during sex. You just need to experiment with different positions and find ones that don't put pressure on the scar.
Explain to your husband it's not him, it's that your vagina was torn apart, and you need a bit if understanding.
Explain to your husband it's not him, it's that your vagina was torn apart, and you need a bit if understanding.
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5 years ago
Have you massaged the scar? That may help over time.