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HELP URGENT. Pregnant woman drinking at my work.

There's a heavily pregnant woman that has just been served her 3rd drink at the pub I'm currently working at and it looks like she's ready for a big night, we cannot refuse her service even though she is pregnant based on her being pregnant because it is discrimination (Fucking stupid if you ask me) I need an excuse to cut her off right now and refuse service that won't backfire on me, our manager is away and in all my years I have not faced this situation.
Yes I'm discriminating, yes I am going to lie.
Worth it in my opinion.
She hasn't had enough yet so that I can just say she's intoxicated.
By law I do have to verbalise a reason, Help before she asks for another drink.

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Never mind, sorted this out 🙌

 What did you do?
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 What happened?
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 ^ she explains in the comments
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Do you also scheme to kick out the people who drink and or play pokies every day, spending hundreds of dollars a week. Do you think about their children?

OP I do think about their children, it's a very sad place to work most of the time.
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You are a good person OP an extremely hard good worker by the looks of it. Please don’t let some snarky Susan’s get to you.

Are you sure she’s actually pregnant and it’s not some other medical condition making her look that way?

OP Yeah i asked her when she's due
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 Oh no... too bad if she said oh I had my baby 6 months ago
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 ^ I don’t know if this post is true or not but there are heavily pregnant women who get drunk. So I’m inclined to believe OP
I used to know a woman who posted pictures on Facebook of her getting plastered with the excuse “my baby is over due so drinking won’t hurt it”. She also smoked a lot of meth throughout her pregnancy, you wouldn’t have known by looking at her either that she was a meth addict. It’s sad and it does happen.

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 ^ I think it’s more the fact that a bartender had time to write a post asking for help *while* she was working and that she encouraged a patron to start a fight that’s making it sound fishy
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 My sil used to text from work all the time, even when it was flat out busy she should have been sacked but her mother was the manager so she got away with it. And constant fb updates about customers. She was shocking.
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OP I'm on my phone a lot at work, I'm duty manager and some times I work until 3am then start again at 9am to open at 10 or take deliveries or when there are no shows.. which is almost daily because hospitality.. and someone has to do it so the general manager doesn't care at all. I also cook myself meals whenever I need to eat, some days I work so much that I shower here and sleep in the rooms upstairs. I don't really care that someone thinks my question wasn't real but it was good to vent about how much time I spend in this shit hole any way lol I feel better.
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 The bs was that you asked her when she was due. Its not a question that you would randomly ask a customer
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OP It wasn't random, I asked because I was checking she was pregnant. Duh. I was quite confident she was, Girlfriend was basically a stick with a watermelon on her front 😂
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 Being duty manager one would think you could handle these situations without asking an anon forum 😳
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OP I was looking for sneaky ways to get around discrimination laws, not someone to hold my hand. I thought this snarky, cut throat forum was a good place to ask. Thanks for keeping it snarky babes.
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 Pretty sure its discrimination to ask her. Duh. Never heard of bartenders asking such things
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OP I asked her "oh, when are you due?" She said "November"..
you know we are people too, that have conversations lol I also ask other shocking questions such as "How is your wife?", "Is your house built yet?", "Do you like your new job?", "When is your daughter's wedding?", "How many kids have you got?".. I could go on. If a service person has never had a conversation with you then you must not be very approachable.

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 Those are conversations you have with regulars. Clearly shes not a regular. I still think you are full of bs sorry
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Honestly, mind your own fu****g business.

 Poor unborn baby
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 Not your problem
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 It becomes societies problem when it is born with FAS D and ends up in foster care cos it's too much work.

And yeah, that's a common scenario in some states/territories.

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You legally cant do anything. You cut her off unfairly. She goes to the media. You get into heapsnof trouble and she goes to the bottle-o and gets drunk anyway.

It sucks but you cant do anything about it.

OP I hatched a plan with one of my regular patrons to call her boyfriend a cockhead and start an argument and I used that to kick him out so she followed lol the legislation around this is ridiculous.
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 They would have just gone elsewhere. Youre lucky didnt turn into a full on brawl.
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OP Probably, either way i'd rather not be the one responsible for serving her.
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 Hope you shouted the regular a drink for helping you out. It’s so fu***d that you had to resort to that.
I wouldn’t worry about the media though, no one would feel sorry for the pregnant lady getting drunk.

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 That could have backfired badly. You’re very lucky.
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OP Nah, security was in on it and waiting. Couldn't morally do nothing so.. oh well.
We once had a lady that was going out the front to breastfeed AND smoke at the same time. I'm just really jack of shitty mothers.

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 It's a shame people are like this. For future, you could've asked for ID before serving and remembered her name and address and spoke to child protective services. They would've kept an eye on it whether it was occurring regularly etc
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