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I’ve been chatting to a guy through text, phone calls and snap chat for the past two weeks now.
We’ve known each other our whole lives but haven’t really been around each other since childhood.
We saw each other on a dating site and started chatting from there.
We realised upon chatting that we had a physical attraction to each since we last saw each other as teenagers (15 years ago).
At first things were going well and we were chatting everyday from morning until night.
He admitted that he was starting to develop feelings and wanted to see where things go.
At the moment closed borders are stopping us meeting.
We both had relationships end this year and have kids.
Over the last 5 days the messages have just about dried up. He no longer asks about how I’m doing or what’s happening and mainly just talks about himself (I ask all the questions about him).
I asked him if everything was okay between us in which he answered that everything was fine and that he just didn’t want to get hurt again.
It’s been two days since I’ve spoken to him, he sent a snap yesterday through the app of some activity he was doing with his kids.
I didn’t reply.
I feel like if he really wanted to continue to get to know me/was interested that he would be reciprocating and asking me things about my life.
It just feels very one sided.
I’ve decided to not talk to him again until he makes an effort.
Am I right in this? If a guy is truly interested, they will make an effort right?
I don’t know what to do...


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1 year ago
Men are trash

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1 year ago
I think it's hard over texting. You can get so obsessed with each other, but sometimes real life happens, you might meet someone else or life gets busy, and as you're not technically in a relationship I guess you can really end up hurting that other person. Messy, I wish you luck

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1 year ago
I think he has been very upfront and honest with you. He has said he is developing feelings for you. He said he doesn’t want to get hurt and he has sent you a picture of himself and his kids. He doesn’t seem to be playing games at all. If he talked about himself to much next time share something about you - maybe he was nervous and filling the silence. I wouldn’t play games with him he sounds like he is looking for a real relationship to me.

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1 year ago
Good luck babe. It sounds like he may miss out on someone who sounds amazing xx

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1 year ago
Maybe he just had to put himself in check! Chatting from morning till night is a bit excessive! I’m assuming you both have a life outside each other ie: kids, work, hobbies etc
Also it depends how long you have both been out of relationships and could you be using each other as bandaids?! Just because you’ve known him since your childhood at 15 doesn’t mean anything. You’re both no longer 15, lived a whole life without being in each others orbit. So quite frankly 2 weeks of chatting and no face to face contact you’re virtually strangers. He sent you a snap of him and his kids YOU chose not to reply, if I were in his shoes I wouldn’t be rushing to contact you any time soon, that’s just plain inconsiderate. You’re expecting the “chase” it’s not going to happen! You asked him if everything was ok and he was honest about not wanting to get hurt so you should’ve used that as let’s slow the roll a little and let things naturally evolve instead you took it upon yourself to enter a mind game battlefield. No adult (male or female with kids) has time or energy for that. I’m not sure if he’ll reach out again but you played your cards wrong OP. Get on with your life and stop stressing about a situation YOU put yourself in.

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1 year ago
This

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1 year ago
Stop being a dick and reply to his snap chat, plus if he’s with his kids he is likely not hanging off his phone.
Send him some random light hearted pic

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1 year ago
My advice is don't play games. Spill your guts, tell him your feeling like he's not interested anymore. Relationships are built on honesty, trust and being vulnerable. If he's not up for it then it's better to know now before it goes any further.

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1 year ago
He's the one whos gone cold, wait for him to make contact.