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My husband has come home at 4am and 7am, how do I handle this?

Answered 1 year ago

My husband has just made new friends during this quarantine and they stay a few blocks away. They invite him over to play spades and for drinks. But he stays there for hours on end. Once he returned at 4am and again at 7am. I’m pregnant with our second child and don’t want to make the situation too stressful. How do I handle this?


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1 year ago
Invite them over for dinner

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1 year ago
This is unacceptable

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1 year ago
You sound like a nut - disrespectful? It’s healthy to have friendships, as long as there’s no women involved why wouldn’t you want your husband socialising?
it will lead to resentment if you’re too clingy and controlling.

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1 year ago
^ and you sound like a bitch. What's your point?

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1 year ago
I agree with her. Why do people have to give their friends in relationships? It always happens. Next it'll be no you can't hang out with Tony on Saturday I need help with the kids.

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1 year ago
Ours out on the week ends? Does he help with the other child the rest of the week?

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1 year ago
Is he*

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1 year ago
Yep thats the issue IMHO. I

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1 year ago
Yeah he does.

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1 year ago
How old are you and he? If you don’t mind me asking.

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1 year ago
We’re both 28.

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1 year ago
Have you met these friends? Drop around with him during the day, you should get a feeling about the situation than. How did they meet?

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1 year ago
No I have not met them and that’s what bothers me the most. These guys are work buddies of his.

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1 year ago
Once or twice, let it go. If it becomes a regular occurrence definitely talk to him and tell him how you feel.

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1 year ago
Yeah so far it’s only been twice. He said he was too drunk to drive home so he slept at their house then drive home when he felt better.

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1 year ago
Does he come home drunk? Is he gambling and losing money? Do you suspect there are women involved? If no to all of the above and he has in actual fact found some other men friends then congratulations your husband is a mentally healthy human being. If it isn’t during the work week unless you have something planned that he is too tired to attend let him have a life. In fact you both need time away from home book a pregnancy yoga class and time at a spa for yourself it will make you better parents.

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1 year ago
I think it's disrespectful

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1 year ago
It is a fact that men don’t make friends easy or maintain relationships that well, hence the higher suicide rates. If her husband has friends looking after his mental health is as important as looking after hers.

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1 year ago
Very well said 100% agree

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1 year ago
He does drink with these friends but he’ll just come home and go to sleep. I’m not sure that there are women involved, but I don’t think so. He has female friends but they they’ve al been healthy friendships and nothing more.

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1 year ago
He said he didn’t come home because he was too drunk to drive. This was only on the weekends. He doesn’t do these things during the week.

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1 year ago
Tell him how you feel. Phrase it so it’s ‘I feel’ rather than YOU DID.
This is an anxious and stressful time for me, I need to feel like you’re here for me if I need you. I feel really stressed and worried when I’m home alone. Can we talk about a good time to come home when you’re out with friends?

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1 year ago
Bump