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My husband has put on 40kg over the years

Answered 4 years ago

We still have a great sex life and love each other problem is his hygiene is appalling...he smells and won’t shower daily and starting to get to the point where I don’t want to be in close proximity unless I know he has showered....have tried to encourage him to shower more and in a way that doesn’t hurt his feelings, He just doesn’t seem to care ? Even the kids tell him he smells 😔 any advice ?


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4 years ago
I agree with the mental health stuff. I once was struggling with life so much that all I had energy for was to turn up to work, come home sleep. I didn't shower, brush my teeth, cook, clean, shop, anything, for days at a time. Someone came over and was like you really smell, you need to shower and shampoo your hair, and brush your teeth so bad!
I ended up getting counseling and antidepressants but it was really depressed during that time of my life without realising it

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4 years ago
I guess I was lucky my job was as a contractor, I would pick up keys to my jobs/buildings but not see any people while at work. Otherwise I may have lost my job from poor hygiene!

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4 years ago
^^🙏 God bless you and merry Christmas 💜

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4 years ago
Sorry to hear this, he needs to shower though that's just basic life skills. If someone hasn't showered 2 times a day, especially in this sweaty country, there is no way I'm rooting you regardless of how skinny or fat you are.

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4 years ago
I'm an over weight woman and like your husband I can smell up really quickly.
However I am conscious of this, overly. He may not smell himself and may have other issues that you are unaware of.
For example- does he have any skin issues that could deter him from showering? When my dermatitis flares up, showering is incredibly painful hence not wanting to shower.

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4 years ago
My husband has put on a lot of weight too and whilst I think he could lose weight if he wanted to, I give him the benefit of the doubt. If he stopped showering I would leave. This is clearly within his control, stop babying him.

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4 years ago
Clearly some mental health stuff going on here. Support him to go and see a psychologist to work out what's happening between the ears.