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What is your opinion of a 14yo girl (yr) having hickies all over her neck? Please note it is NOT my child so need need t

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What is your opinion of a 14yo girl (yr) having hickies all over her neck?
Please note it is NOT my child so need need to rude to me. I'm just asking a question ✌😊


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2 years ago
My stepsister and I are close and she often comes and stays with my partner and me. She got the bus to our place one Friday and I noticed she had hickies on her neck. She was 11 and in year 6. Not even high school yet. I absolutely went off my head. I told her mother and all I got out of her was "oh well, thats her mistake to make." Mind you, this is the same woman who kicked her 16 year old out for falling pregnant last year. My stepsister is 13 now (turns 14 in 6 months) and recently started asking me about sex and actually asked me about what age I lost my virginity. I dug deeper and found out she had a 16 year old boyfriend who had been trying to pressure her in to sex but they were keeping their relationship "secret." Well I let her have it again, but a bit more gently than when she had the hickey lol. She finally saw reason and she broke up with him and she now has a boyfriend who is the same age as her and all I can think is well at least if they do have sex it isnt a paedophile or rape charge for him. I've tried to tell her to wait and that I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17 and that its better for her to wait. Hopefully now she takes it all in to account and listens. I can't understand the appeal of having a boyfriend so young. I was 15 before I started dating boys and that was pretty well the normal age for my school so this obsession with having boyfriends in primary school confuses me. And apparently it's definitely a thing, my SIL is a teacher at the primary school and when I told her about the hickies she said "yeah most of the girls have them, it's really bad". What happened to boys being gross and girls having cooties?

She isnt a bad kid or a slut or anything. She just has a shitty life with a shitty dad who walked out before she was born and drops in and out of her life whenever he feels like it and a mum who is on her 6th kid and just doesn't care and she is excited that these boys show her attention she craves and it sucks.

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2 years ago
Sounds like you’re a great sister. Keep being there for her.

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2 years ago
I agree! She’s lucky to have you

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2 years ago
Thanks ladies. I try so hard to be there for her and I hope she listens to me. She was 3 and I was 15 when her mum and my dad got together so she can't remember life before we came along and I instantly loved her and took her under my wing lol. I know dad tries as well, but she won't talk to him or anything and her mum goes off about him "parenting her kids" so he backs off. I dare her to say something to me lol

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2 years ago
Continue to be there for her, give her the best advice you could give her and hope for the best.

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2 years ago
Tell her to cover them up with makeup.

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2 years ago
I hate being served by people with those on their necks. They should be told by bosses to cover them up or go home

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2 years ago
Can you speak to the school and see if they can have more education around all that. I have all girls and I worry about puberty 🙈🙈

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2 years ago
I would think if she isn’t already having sex then she will be soon.

Also, are you close to this girl? Or her mother? Someone older and wiser probably needs to have a chat to her about sex etc

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2 years ago
No she's a student alongside my daughter but they're not friends. This girl has a new boyfriend every week. It's just awful. It's not my business, I get that and i won't gossip to the other mums but I'd be horrified if it was my child

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2 years ago
Sorry girl is year 9 😊