Destination Weddings - what is expected?
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My husband and I have recently been invited to a friends destination wedding a solid day drive from home (about 4 hours fly time) We have 3 kids aged 5 to 13 that have not been invited as it is a kid-free wedding. Our parents and most other family live in QLD so dropping them off at Grandma's place for the weekend isn't an option. We have booked and paid for the accommodation for all 5 of us which was almost $2k as the destination is quite exclusive plus car hire, flights etc we're looking down the barrel of a $5000 - $6000 4-day getaway.
Question: They are having a wishing well, what is the unwritten rule for wishing wells at a destination wedding and what would be considered rude/appropriate?
Also, what other options do you feel would be available for the kids should we not be able to find a sitter for the hours of the wedding?
Any other thoughts, tips or opinions?
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As for the kids, you know them, are they the kind of kids that you could leave unsupervised? Maybe contact your accommodation or look on their website for info on child minding.
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The wishing well standard is to put at least what it cost them to feed you at the wedding. 30-75 per person, generally. Upscale and open bar go higher.
Flights mean no gift necessary
Marriage is about celebrating a union, not about begging for gifts.
I would put $50-100 in an envelope, with a lovely card. If they complain, 😳 ditch them.
I got married overseas; I paid for accomodation for all my guests and very specifically wrote ‘your presence is present enough. Please no physical or monetary gifts as we’ve already asked so much if you travelling all the way here, la la la we love you for it bla bla’.