You get massages ! ? I have never had one. Hubby never looked after the kids. Handed out grocery money to the last cent, with the list of shops where each special was, that I had to walk to.
You don’t seem to have it too bad.

You will miss his income
Get a job and he can cut back on his hours and can help you at home

Only thing that is hard for me at this stage is I struggle financially. I am struggling to find permanent work, I am studying at the moment and in 2 months time I’ll be done.

The rest comes easy. I do get tired as I don’t get a break as the sperm donor doesn’t see his kids since he left us for his affair partner. So all decisions I make is for us 3. We have a really nice life without him, more relaxed, don’t have to walk on eggshells.

I think I prefer being on my own and doing it alone so much so that ill happily remain single for the rest of my life. Working is difficult when kids are ill and you have no one to help but apart from that it's great. I don't have supports and friends to rely on but I don't need help.

Yeah, I am 100% fine as a single mum. The only hard part was watching him fall in love again, and she got the better version of me, iv never seen a more remorseful or shame filled person than the man I found who cheated.
I tried but ultimately it became unhealthy for me to stay, something left intamacy wise I just never recovered from.
He learned his lesson well and he tried so damn hard to make it work, I can confidently say he willl never cheat on a woman he loves again.

And watching him with his new girlfriend 3 years after the separation was harder than I thought it would be, but in all honestly many other areas were easier.
I had way more money because he pays his share now, I was a better more engaged mum because my kids and I had a bit of time apart, we coparent brilliantly, the kids share the house (I own it) and he and I move in and out of it. But mostly I just do nights, he stays once a week, but he sees them every day. We have family dinner once a week. So co parenting has been very easy for us.
I get more of a break than I use to even though he was a very engaged dad. But he would always “clock off” when his hours were up (ie when I got home from work he would immediately be having a smoke.we resumed mostly how we looked after the kids but he took them out the whole Sunday and I got one night a week 100% to myself.


It’s worked brilliantly for me I’d say I’m better off about $400 a week. My kids are happy I’m happy, I get more time and money to myself that I didn’t realise I was self savrificing. I mean I was always happy to do it, I still would be happy to do it but it just makes it that much sweeter. Maybe I’m trying to find silver lining to les time with my kids, I tend to do that but yeah it’s worked well for me. Master I say it,
I love being a single mum.

For me it was easier but he was abusive. I had no support either

In a way it’s easier. I didn’t have to worry about what he was doing, if he was cheating again, if he was going to go in a fit of rage.

What I found hardest was not having the back up, the loss of my best friend who I could tell anything to, not having someone to hug me when I cried. I think that was the hardest adjustment to make.

I've had a relatively easy time going from married to a single mum. Yes it can be challenging but I've had friends to lean on and some have learned on me. My friendships have strengthened and I've made new friends. I have our kids most of the time and it's made us closer and experience and make memories that we would have never had if my ex had stayed. My kids feel loved and respected and know that I wont be going anywhere.
After 5 years (last 2 dating) I have found an amazing guy who is everything I deserve. I have boundaries, he has boundaries. We have discussed these at length and talked about what we want from a loving, respectful partnership. I couldn't have had this if I was still married. Totally worth it.

Hard and isolating in my opinion, even with a good support system

It’s hard work. No one to bounce things off. No one to take over when you need a break.
It’s stressful & full on all the time. It can be financially difficult.