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I let him get halfway there and then tell him what I’d really like. “I am out of my perfume, can I pick some up tomorrow?” “They have a sale on at xyz tomorrow, you don’t mind if I get something?” “Can you take the kids to school tomorrow? I am hanging out for a sleep-in” “How about we try that new restaurant tomorrow night - so-n-so can babysit?”
Keep it specific and answerable with a yes/no response. A no gets more questions that he has to pay attention to. A yes gets enthusiastic and energetic lovemaking (regardless of how you feel). Training takes time and deliberation ladies. And before I receive any backlash - you think they aren’t training us!? You spend too much on groceries. Why isn’t the house clean. never see my family etc....
No. We have respect & equality. I don't ask permission to buy things or ask for gifts because we share money & know what we can afford. If I need/want something expensive I'll run it by him and he does the same. If something needs to be done or picked up on the way home I ask, as does he.
I gotta tell you - equality is pretty hot.
Fyi he's holding out on buying gifts or doing things until you put out. Men aren't as stupid as you think.
Troll away if helps your self esteem.... I won't be returning. I'm looking for something a little more positive!
Eek. Some unhealthy relationships on here!
Sex in return for goods?? You know what that sounds like? Hmm
I have sex with my husband because we're sexual beings and in love with each other. We get each other gifts because we like to treat one another.
How embarrassing to say "I got this beautiful ring in exchange for a blow job".
Some of you are being abused
No, but I am more willing if he had been helpful, so I don’t bargain so much as use positive reinforcement 😆
I tell my husband I don't want sex because you yelled at me so much today and in public in front of people and if you wanted sex tonight maybe you might have thought to be nicer and then hope he will be nice the next day