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Do you avoid single mothers?

Just curious to see if people avoid single mothers. Not trolling or looking for an argument I just want honest answers.

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When I became a single mum most of my married friends dropped me like a hot potato....I think they saw me as a threat and thought I was going to steal their husbands 😖 no bloody way...why would I want their lovely, overweight, bald, snoring horny delights...especially when I just got rid of my own 🤔

OP 😂 this made me laugh out loud.
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 That is ridiculous! Those women must be extremely insecure to think single mothers want to steal their husbands.
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 Why do you think it’s got anything to do with you stealing their husbands?
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 Lol I want to generalize and say most women are insecure
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 The same happened to me. Aways a threat.... even 8 years later still a thteat because I have stayed single. One friend blamed me for her marriage breakup, saying itnwas all because of her hubby and me having something going on.
Nothing ever did or would.

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 I have heard widowed women get abandoned by friends for the same reason. It's awful.
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 I was the same except I was single no kids....i didn't want their boring joyless husbands.
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As in friendships or relationships?
I'm a mum and I don't avoid single mums. I don't know anyone I don't actively avoid them. If a mum has kids the same age as mine and we get along, I will spend time with them.

OP Friendships.
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I don't but I know men who try and discourage their partners from associating with single mums. Their crazy reasoning was the single mums are obviously man haters and bitching about men will rub off on their own partners and make them want to leave as well. I heard a newly single men blame the end of the relationship on the fact that their ex was friends with a single mum. Truly some people are idiots

 My ex besties husband was the same. I think he could see how happy I had become. I love my independence. Her husband expects dinner on the table , cooked fresh no reheats, kids bathed and ready for bed when he gets home, constantly spends lots of $ on luxury items, doesn't allow her $ for herself... Cloths etc, acts like the world has ended if she spends $ on a outing with the kids (play centre etc)
I can give the kids reheated slag Bol from the freezer, bath and dress the kids and stuff about with them till 8 and put them to bed and watch crap Tv eating baked beans on toast. I control my finances and budget strictly do I can buy new tops (she would carry on suggesting I shouldn't be able to afford clothing) I budget for kids outings. I have been super happy not having my ex around.

She didn't help his opinion as I think she used me as a agruement example comparing her situation to mine.
He clearly became worried that she would be happier without him

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OP I have never heard of that. That is insane that they would think that.
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 My ex husband was also very reluctant to have me hang out with my newly separated (now divorced) friend, thinking she would influence me. It was actually his behaviour that influenced my decision to separate from him, not my friend.
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I'm a single mom. I have many many acquaintances but only a few who I regard as friends. When I was younger I used to be hurt by people judging comments but these days I don't care what anyone else thinks. I focus on my kids and I and our future and to be honest I am happy being single than stuck in a relationship with the wrong person.

My ex was controlling and he did not like me having single mum friends. I spent 5 years single and I was avoided like the plague. Even some guys at work would think I wanted them just because I would be friendly to them. The whole experience was strange. I invited about 15 people to my bday one year and only 3 turned up.

 I'm so hearing what you are saying about guys assuming because a woman is single she must want them. I've had that happen a few times... I just laugh at them..
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No, a couple of my close friends are single mums. I don't see them as any different to when they were still with their partners.

Yes. I get sick of being expected to help out all the time. I have my own family to look after so i dont want to look after theirs as well. While they are gossiping they expect my husband to watch their kids too. So sick of it. Watch your own damned kids.

 Me too!! Too bloody often!! Don't make me handle the consequences of your life choices!!
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 You can choose to have your husband walk out on you for another woman and Abandon your children? Huh, who knew that was a choice
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 ^No probs but sort your shit out!! Learn to wipe your own backsides. It's not hard to work it out. Some people are useless. You adapt and take kids with you.
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 ^^^Please elaborate. And do not paint all single mothers with the same brush. Take your kids with you where, exactly?
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 I would happily take my kids with me, sort my own life out and live in peace if the law wasn't so crappy, giving father's who walk out on their families too many rights. They should not be allowed to see their kids at all. Pay a lump sum to the ex who is taking care of the kids and get lost.
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 ^omg So sick of victim women like u!! I hate hearing "He left us" umm no, He didn't leave the kids, He left YOU which unfortunately means he had to leave the martital home. Perhaps if u were a better wife he wouldn't have left. Try harder!! F*ing useless.
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 ^^Triggered much. I know many men who have left beautiful, brilliant wives. More about what kind of "man" he is much of the time. Or lack of.
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 Try harder. Pfft. Only the people who were in the relationship know how hard she tried. I know many women who tried for YEARS.
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 ^Try harder for years???? More fool them for not knowing when to pick up their self respect and realise they are not part of their husbands heart anymore. Have some dignity. Accept he is breaking all the roles of marriage and accept he doesn't want you in his life anymore. Poor man bred with you, now he's stuck listening to your begging and pleading to stay. Have dignity bitch.
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 Lol, who said anything about begging and pleading to stay? You sound schizo. First saying try harder, then saying have self respect and leave. You are just here to cause trouble, methinks. Nothing better to do.
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 All the more reason he should pay up and piss off.
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I'm a married mum & I'd rather me be friends with single mums. They're more eager do fun things & have more time. I found married mum's do be quite bitchy.

 And competitive
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Honestly. Most of my single mum friends have burnt me in some way. It is not because they are single but I think it was because I didn't play into their woah is me act. I am a no bs person so their games didn't work on me. It is more about their personality rather than relationship status. The only thing was their true personality came out when they became single.

 What were they like or what did they do? Just curious!
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 Best friends. One took my kindness of helping her financially and never repaI'd it. I gAve her over $2000 for a bond, clothing for job interviews, things for her baby etc and she never repaid it. She then became quite nasty to me.

The other used to have a go at me about how I raise my children. She became single and changed the way she raised hers. She started to say and do things that I did which she had negative comments about in the past. I mentioned that she wasn't singing the same tune when it was me and she went off at me and ended all contact. She was my best friend too.

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 I have a friend who is a single mum, and she has this woe is me, why is my life so hard, act going on too. It's her personality though, I feel like she's a narcissistic, attention seeker and nothing to do with the single mum part. She's unbearable actually, but if I had no other single mum friends and she was my only example to go off, she'd give single mums a bad name. Luckily I work with many single mums who are pretty impressive, contributing members of society and fantastic balanced ladies, so I know that one dodgy friend I have is a minority
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I'm a married mum and I prefer them to other married mums!!!!!!
They're admirable, courageous and inspiring.
Plus they appreciate a girls night out way more than my married mum friends. No whinging about loser husbands they will never leave, and when they start dating it's so exciting living through their stories.

My husbands a total babe and really great guy and Dad. I am not threatened by any single mums. He does right by our family. Besides I'm the type of wife who wants to bring other women into our marital bed.

Single mums come at me you all rock!

 Same!
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These answers are terrible! I have a lovely friend who is a single mum, I try to help if she needs it. Single mums need us to be understanding not mean.

I don't avoid single moms specifically, but the 2 moms I do avoid are single. They have both taken advantage of my kindness too many times. I was raised by a single mom. Her friends were her support system. When my friends became single and went back to work, I was ready to help out with babysitting, school drops and pick ups, invitations to dinner or a casserole, pot of soup etc to make their say a little easier. I asked one friend to babysit my son a few times. She blew me off moments before she was supposed to watch him, every time. The other began leaving her child at my house for weeks at a time without even checking on him. I would wake up to find bags of his clothes and medications dropped on my porch in the middle of the night so she wouldn't have to see me. I think no matter who you are, married or single, you need to be grateful for the people who have your back and be willing to reciprocate when you ask for favors.

Yes, because the minute us single mothers become single, we grow warts and hair in strange places. I mean I try to avoid me at all costs because the fact that I'm single defines who I am. Once I find a very new guy, I'm sure that will define me as being a worthwhile person to hang out with. My relationship status definitely defines who I am, oh and of course the fact I have kids too. Shit being a mother and single suxs. Id better find a man quick smart, because i seriously want you to hang out with me!!

OP No need to get nasty I was just asking. A lot of people treated me differently when I became single and now avoid me and I was just wondering if people do it or not. It's a safe place here where people can open up without being identified so that's why I'm asking here.
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 It's a stupid question. Avoiding people because of their relationship status is just plain stupid. Oh this was not nasty....it's called sarcasm!
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OP Yes stupid question. Sorry I asked.
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OP I'm stupid and can't understand sarcasm. I'm a f**k up and people probably hate me for every other reason like I'm a fu****g idiot who fu**s up everything. You're right people don't avoid someone because of their relationship status.
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 It's fine to ask, but you did not give us any indication of where you were coming from, only that it was a harmless question. Put your question into context, then people will reply in context. Go easy on yourself, this is the internet, expect the unexpected!
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 I think you were legitimate in your question OP. Then you started the poor me I'm so stupid I wreck everything rant and o instantly lost any regard or respect for you. Don't carry on like a dope, there was absolutely no way you were going to be able to post this question, with no context and get legit answers. There is nothing worse than people who do the sympathy tantrum - you are not stupid, you don't wreck everything, you're not a f**king idiot. You are a manipulative, attention seeking person who wants to be cuddled and told you're not a f**k up. Stop whinging, stand up and get over it.
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OP Thanks for that honesty. I've had a really tough few weeks and I lost my cool before. I can normal control my feelings and emotions and I did have a boo-hoo moment that I shouldn't have had. Sorry.
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 Don't be too harsh on yourself OP. Thank you for your honesty! X
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My best friend is a single mum. We've been friends for 20years. My husband helps her around the house.

 You and your husband sound like lovely people 😊
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It’s not about being a single mum. It’s about the decision they made to become a single mum.