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Why do peoples think it's ok to touch someone else's baby?!

It makes my blood boil. At what point while growing up and learning, do some think it's perfectly ok to touch a baby's hands/feet/cheeks, fix their clothes, hair when said baby is NOT theirs. Can we round all these people up in one place so that they can touch each other and leave the rest of us alone 😡

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It is human nature. We are all programmed to respond to babies in this way. Can't escape evolution.

 I feel no pull to touch other people's babies
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 How is it evolution?! Not your baby, keep your fu****g paws off 😡
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 Don't know about you but I definitely have no desire to go around touching stranger's babies. Sure if a friend offers for me to hold their baby I gladly do, but only when it's offered and I know the parents
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 omg sounds like food
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 i like babies but couldn't eat a whole one
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 Well for a start babies are born with big eyes to make them more appealing to adults so they will help the parents to provide and protect them. Secondly how often do you see people at the supermarket waving at or making funny faces at adults. Like never. It is our evolutionary history that does it.
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 Its true we are programed to have a biological reaction when seeing babies. It goes back to cavemen, it was a way of keeping them safe. we are naturally drawn to them instictivly, to protect and to love.
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you people are unbeleivably stuck-up & precious do you hear what your saying?

You guys are all irrational. Talk about wrapping your kids in cotton wool. And you wonder why there is so much distrust in society? Your kids will be scared of being touched because they are reading your disdain? Glad
I don't know anyone like you, and if I did and that person was too silly to actually voice their issue instead of being childish and whinging loudly on the internet I'm pretty sure I'd not want to have you in my life anyway. How ridiculous. Oh and btw I'll probably be the mum who your kids are attracted to at the playground when they are older because I'm the one actually playing with my kids and all kids rather than sitting on my phone while my kid plays unattended and begging for attention

 Have a snickers, love.
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 Ummm yeah ok. A bright attack I guess
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 .. what?
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 So many contradictions in this psychotic fit of yours. Us who don't want grubby hands on our precious little people neglect them at the playground? So we care enough to be angry that strangers touch them, yet we don't keep an eye out on them? Yet you will let your kids be harassed by strangers, but you're an awesome parents because you'll play with them? What..?
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 I don't see the contradictions. People showing affection translates to grubby hands is just a typical overreaction and I'm sorry you read that as a contradiction , just like you calling my response psychotic fit. what I find silly here is that the contradiction of parents to be all for build a villiage trend and then anti strangers. Coming from spending years abroad in very child welcoming cultures(in Europe) I find it embarrassing to read. If you have a problem say something sure, but to start being so rude toward people who are probably kind to your kid to show affection is just sad and demented.
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 So are you saying it's ok for a total stranger , without any prelude of a conversation with you as the mum, to lean down to your baby and touch her face- hands- etc?
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 ofcourse not.
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I absolutely hated it with my first two babies, now with my third I physically stop people's hands as they reach for the baby. They don't care about being rude then I don't care about offending them. I wouldn't hit them or anything, just put my hand in between them and my baby. They generally get the message and apologize.

I don't mind people I know playing with or holding my baby, but it's people that I don't know that randomly come up and touch my baby completely lot of the blue, especially at shopping centres that I absolutely will not tolerate.

If I'm talking to someone and they are holding their non newborn baby that is giggling and smiling at me, I might tickle their foot and giggle back. I don't think that is offensive. I think touching a new born without permission or kissing or hugging anyone without permission regardless of age is inappropriate. I think some people believe that with babies and children there are no boundaries when it comes to affection. These people obviously adore them, but it does make me uncomfortable.

 Well you sound reasonable but I'm pretty sure the others on this post would find you annoying as hell which is insane
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 Meh. Who cares what other people think. What it really comes down to is respect. If you're ok with strangers touching your babies without permission then that is fine. But respect that not everyone feels the same. As parents it's up to us to decide what is and isn't ok for our kids as they can't speak up for themselves. So sad that people in this thread are getting attacked for their opinion.
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def millennials glad you weren't around in the 60's

 That's a pretty rubbish thing to say. Although, it's a pretty standard old person tactic: blame the younger generations they're all a bunch of idiots. Think about this, your generation raised us. Your generation left us the social expectations and environment that influences our attitude. Your generation has been a big part of making the situation you're so glad wasn't around in the sixties, just as much as our generation.
Sorry to rant here, but I've had enough of old people being rude and petty just because they're older and feel like we should kowtow to them.

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I couldn't agree more. I could have written this. Do these people wash there hands after the toilet? I don't know. It freaks me out. A sick new born can be very very serious all because someone at the shopping centre couldn't keep there hands to themselves.

Wow, this really makes you angry. When my twins were babies they were very sick. We had to keep them in the pram with the mesh cover or rain cover on at all times while in public. To stop people trying to lift the cover we got a hold of a couple of bio hazard/quarantine stickers and stuck them on squares of white cardboard to attach to the pram. It kept the germs away, and an added bonus, people would move out of our way in crowds.

Let's round them all up with check out people who lick their fingers to seperate bags at the supermarket, shops etc.gross pigs.

Yes!! I get major anxiety about a simple trip to the supermarket with my 5 week old. She picked up a tummy bug at just 6 DAYS OLD after a trip to the supermarket with my older son and I had her in the baby seat on top of the trolley and people kept touching her and breathing on her etc. One woman even stood over her and kept touching her while I was unloading the trolley at the checkout. Within days baby was almost admitted to hospital with dehydration, had lost weight and couldn't keep any feeds down. I went from being so proud of myself for finally getting my independence back after a problematic pregnancy to no longer wanting to leave the house or even to allow friends and family hold my baby. Only this week are we now finally seeing significant weight gains. Now I will only go to the supermarket with bub in the pram with a shade cover over her and my husband has to come to push the trolley around behind me. And I thought it was bad when strangers touched my pregnant belly!! STAY AWAY FROM BABIES IF YOU DON'T KNOW THE PARENTS.

 Really though, at 6 days old, even 5 weeks, babies should not be taken to supermarkets of all places. Stay home for as much as you can, do online shopping or send your husband out.
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 Ok, she could have picked up the bug anywhere. Maybe even from you or your older child. Please don't just assume it's from the strangers. You're just setting yourself up to be anxious about it when it may be unnecessary. However, I agree they shouldn't have pawwed at your baby like that. A helpful tip for shopping with a pram (in case you go out without your hubby), buy some carabina clips or shower curtain hoops to attach to the pram handle and you can clip reusable bags to them to carry your goods. Since your daughter is new and not very heavy, maybe put a counter weight at the feet compartment so the pram doesn't tip. Hopefully this will help give you back some independence :-)
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 ^thats such a great idea. It would make shopping so much easier with a baby in a pram.
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 I used to wear my son in a sling when he was a newborn and I was shopping. People are less
likely to touch your baby if they are in a sling or carrier.

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 Online shopping isn't available where I live and my husband is a farmer - was busy harvesting at the time. We needed food. Staying home is a ridiculous suggestion - of course I have to go to the supermarket, a 5 week old baby shouldn't be out? You are a twat.
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Im contemplating a velcro flyscreen. At least that way they cant spontanious touch my kid. They have to take the screen off and i can stop them before they touch them

 You can get pram fly nets. They have an elastic so fit any pram. I find mine very handy - for flys, and the people as annoying as flys
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It is not ok. Seeing my 4th bub get so sick and struggling to breath at 12 days old from an airborne virus makes me angry. I was a little surprised how easily this was passed on when my other 3 kids never got that sick. Pregnant bellies and babies arent to be touched by everyone although there seems to be some attraction

How many people even want to touch your stupid baby?

You realise a baby isn't an extention of your own body?? they are a person.

Bottom line. People carry germs from everything theyes touch. Then they touch a baby without asking and risk the child's health. You wouldn't touch am adult without asking them or at least getting the social cues that shows they are OK with it. Same with babies. Ask the mom. I carried hand sanitizer and was happy to let ppl who used it touch the baby