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I think I'm starting to fall out of love with my husband?? What can I do to change this?

LLLLong story short, my FIL in toxic. Toxic to the point that it would be safer that he not be in our lives. Lately it's gotten so bad that his toxicity is affecting our marriage more than usual, as in my husband takes his frustration and stress out on me. I asked him to move out if he wants to continue helping his father. He refused to leave and we talked it over, but I think a part of my love for my husband died that night. I still can't put my wedding rings back on and being affectionate with my husband takes real effort. I'm just waiting to be let down by him again. To be treated poorly again. For his father to come in between us again. And I think I'm afraid that he'll become more like his dad.
My husband kissed me goodbye this morning and I was repulsed by it.
I don't know how to fix this. I don't have anyone to talk to.

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Mother in laws are usually the ones giving u a hardntime. Its hard to talk to men. About feelings they don't care. I can't get far with my partner with that stuff. Let him know he is stressing u out.

Talk to your husband honestly and brutally. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and why. He may not realise just how bad the situation has become. Tell him that your love for him died that night. I know it sounds harsh but he needs to hear it otherwise you will become so disconnected from each other that it will be impossible to (or very hard) to come back from. There is a fine line between love and hate, and if you really love him you need to let him know how you feel and what he is doing to hurt you.
Hopefully he can process what it is he is doing to make you feel repulsed by him and he can go about trying to fix it. I understand that everyone is different though. Some men just don't want to hear it. Good luck with it.... I wish there was a cookie cutter answer for everything, I hope this helps.

The only way to change it is to work in the relationship. Spend time, talk, reconnect... you may need the help of a councilor, but it can be doNEn if it's what you really want

Saw this on another question and think it applies here too....

"When you get married, many people stop dating thier spouse (communication, alone time, common interests besides house and kids...). So I'd say date your husband like before you had him locked in"

Whoever wrote it, great attitude.

Mother in laws are usually the ones giving u a hardntime. Its hard to talk to men. About feelings they don't care. I can't get far with my partner with that stuff. Let him know he is stressing u out.