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The only unconditional love I’ve ever felt is for my children.
There is no such thing. Everyone has boundaries they won’t allow to be crossed and that is the way it should be.
I am so sad for you people. You can't talk about love without talking about rape and beating children. What reality are you living in? If that's your life then get out. You take a beautiful subject and turn into something incredibly ugly. I'd have bets I'm older than any of you and i've lived 6 lifetimes of lessons in my lifetime. Stop embracing the negative and look towards the light.
And stop assuming things about people you do not know.
I have met a few women over the past few months that are supporting their partners through jail sentences. Now that is unconditional love to me!
Okay, you have really fu***d up but I love you, so let’s work through this together!
(No DV or charges against children involved)
It’s not unconditional love if you love someone that has hurt you or crossed clear human boundaries. You need to live and love with self respect.
It can be difficult to understand if you've never been in a situation where you've been pushed past your limits. For example, I have been abused in the past. I recognise that there are certain behaviours that to me, are deal breakers. They might not be to you. But to me, with my past experience, if my husband (whom I do love) were to cross that line, I'd never be able to love him the same again. And I've seen how much it takes (for me) to turn love in to indifference. I know my limits.
That doesn't mean there isn't a tremendous amount of love to be had. I remember being absolutely in love with my abuser. Thats the only way I allowed myself to stay as long as I did. But love did turn to indifference in the end. Not hate, but certainly no longer love.
I found it twice. Once when I was young, i didn't know how lucky i was as I had nothing to compare it to and stupidly thought that everyone loved like that - boy was I WRONG! And now with my amazing husband I thank my lucky stars all the time & feel so blessed. I am never letting him go.
I love my child unconditionally, however have never felt unconditional love myself. In my family love comes with strings attached or something is wanted in return for contact. Sigh.
Unconditional? Not once. I have loved deeply, and I have loved for a long time, but never unconditionally for a partner.
Think about that phrase - unconditionally. Without conditions. It's reasonable to assume that also means without limitations.
Now think about the worst things a person can do. If your partner does that are you still loving them? If your partner was to beat you and rape you would you really keep loving them? What about when they do it repeatedly? At some point, your unconditional has a limit. At least mine does.