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How much does your child eat?

My daughter is going through another scarce phase. She’s never been a big eater and iv always consider her to be healthy and very intuitive eater.
But lately as she’s growing older (nearly 7) her small portion days are starting to get me a bit more on the worries side.

When friends come to our house they can sometimes eat 3 days of my kids food in 2/3 hours.


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If she has no stomach problems and is energetic enough, don’t worry about it. If food is available at mealtimes and snacks, and she is not eating unhealthy snacks instead of food provided, children will regulate themselves how much their body needs. Just be prepared for the times she is extra hungry because they come at the weirdest times 😆

My oldest is like this. She won't eat very much. In fact she had 2 Weet-Bix with 1/2 A banana for breakfast, half a ham and cheese sandwich for lunch, an apple about 4pm and didn't eat any of her dinner. She is a tiny little thing and I worry about her. My youngest, on the other hand, eats more than I do and despite being 2 years younger than her older sister, is a size bigger in clothing. If you're concerned I would see a GP. My oldest has been seeing the same GP her whole life and he isn't concerned about her as the little bits that she does eat are fairly healthy and balanced and she is bright, energetic and very talkative little girl.

 ‘she had 2 Weet-Bix with 1/2 A banana for breakfast, half a ham and cheese sandwich for lunch, an apple about 4pm and didn't eat any of her dinner.’ If this is a typical example of what a child eats - I’d be concerned if my GP said that that constituted a health and balanced diet. There are way not enough variety of foods from the food pyramid here.
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 I agree with the advice poster, I think you might need a new GP
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 Calm down, armchair nutritionists. The OP gave that as an example of ONE day when she didn't eat very much. She probably gave a fuller picture of her girls diet to the GP, which is why he isn't worried.
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 I did reply to this telling everyone to calm their tits and that was an example of what she ate that day not what her regular diet is but apparently it got deleted 😂. Obviously if her doctor isn't worried then you lot shouldn't be, geez everyone on here is quick to judge 😂😂
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My 7yo lives on apples. Barely eats breakfast, I can only get her to eat toast or an apple. Lunch she would happily eat an apple but I make her eat a sandwich then she can have an apple if she wants. Then she might have an apple for afternoon tea. But tea time comes around and she eats all of it. Veg, meat the lot. She gets a marshmallow if she eats all her tea. It's not coz I'm trying to teach her to eat veggies it more to encourage her just to eat a decent meal. She's as skinny as a rake.
On an up side an apple a day keeps the doctor away...

 A marshmallow? Like just one?
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 Yes just one, what's wrong with that?
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My 11 yr old girl and 14 yr old son eat all day long but they are both active and very very skinny. My oldest girl eats three small meals a day, no snacks or junk, but is not active at all ( lazy academic) and she’s overweight.

Lots of great advice here.
Can I just add, if she is petite and not very active, she just won't need to eat as much as other children.
I am petite and as an adult I really don't eat much (people will comment on my small portion sizes), yet still struggle to stay slim. I just really don't need much to keep my body going.
My mother use to worry when I was younger, particularly getting into the teenage years.
It helped when she got me more involved with food preparation and would not nag me to eat.

OP She’s not petite, she has an very strong athletic build and does more activity than most kids.
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 I'm sorry, you said she was short in another response so I assumed petite. If she has a strong athletic build and is very active (not lethargic all the time), I can't see a reason to be concerned.
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My 11 year old is very active, she is very lean and tone. She doesn't eat a lot and she is a grazer (there is no way that she could consume a 500ml smoothie for breakfast...It would take her all day to drink it). This is what she consumed yesterday-
Breakfast: 1 piece of avocado on toast (only ate about 3/4 of it)
School lunch: small piece of watermelon, 2 small strawberries, piece of ham, 3 carrot sticks, 1 cherry tomato and 6 endamae.
Afternoon tea: 1/2 cup of popcorn
Dinner: steak and salad

Is she active enough? My daughter ate like a bird until she started dance, gymnastics and netball.

OP Extremely active, 3 activities a week. Plus always at the beach and walks 3 times a week with me just stopped swimming where her warm up alone was 200meter on the kickboard.
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I should add my daughter is a very healthy weight, all be it short. (But so is our whole family)
She has an athletic body beyond her years (solid with a 6 pack and bicep muscles ect)

Example yesterday, she had a 500ml smoothie.
A small date roll.
And a few bites of chicken, her small salad and didn’t touch her rice.
If she skins over breakfast (the big smoothie) she will usually finish her dinner plate easily (fish and rice and salad or a veggie pasta)

But she will only ever had one decent meal for the day. Then one or two more snacky portions of something.

Rule of thumb (that’s worked for the past 9 years/2 kids - except if they’re sick) is that the kids cupped hands is the size of their stomach and the meal portion size. They have smashed avocado with seaweed; multigrain toast with homemade pesto; oats or buckwheat porridge; scrambled egg, raw lettuce cup with grated carrots, boiled peanuts, cheddar cheese slice and a small cup of raw vegetable and fruit blast made of (carrot, cucumber, tomato, beetroot, apple, pear, orange, celery, pineapple, broccoli, spinach, sprouts, cabbage, mixed berries) - that’s the variety of foods for breakfast. Morning tea, lunch, afternoon snacks, dinner and bedtime snacks.