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Yes I have been in this situation. He had them every second school holidays and I got a text message once saying "I do you a favour by taking the kids so you can have a break" 😂😮. Meanwhile there are Dads out there selling everything they have to see their kids on a regular basis and then theres dip shits like our exes that still think they're babysitting. You can't force him to be a better Dad unfortunately but you can still go through with mediation and then a parenting plan. At least then its in place if he ever does want to step up. Start with mediation and if he doesn't show you end up with a document to take to court where you can make your parenting order legal. If he does show up to mediation hopefully they help him realise he needs to start putting his kids before his spitefulness.
If he doesn't want to see his own kids they're better off without him. Get full custody.
I also am working a fulltime job. And whatever i earn is more than the child support he pays..
If you file parenting orders he can still decline to have any contact as my ex just did to me. You can force him to have contact or shared care
If he isn’t hassling you and is paying. Save yourself the stress. While I know it is so HARD and heartbreaking for kids as they don’t get it. One day they will.
If he isn’t interested in seeing his kids and you make enough to support your family maybe you should think about going full custody without him having any rights. I would make a show about trying to get him involved for the courts. Honestly I would worry about your kids and the effect being constantly rejected by their dad would have on their mental wellbeing.