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It's also probably influenced a lot by his parents views.
I have noticed children who are friends with my non aboriginal child have been really really racist (for a child) towards my aboriginal child, which seems to be a reflection of mum/dad attitude and thoughtless comments made in front of children. Eventually over time they'd all play together and make comments like even though they're black they are still a nice person, but that seed has already been planted by racist parents, it's upsetting and unfair when young children are innocent
I know your saying the way is said it was meant to be offensive but is aborigine the word itself offensive?
Sometimes you have to pick what's right, it's a hard but good lesson. If he is putting down a friend of hers in anyway, is she willing to put with it? It's her choice, but ask her if she was the one who was the victim, would her friend choose her over a mean friend?
She is such a kind girl that he has made her feel guilty, no matter how much I tell her she did the right thing.
This is a forerunner of how he will treat his wife. He will probably find fault with any friends she has. The jealousy reaction is typical control techniques.
If it's not race, it will be other things he will perceive as faults.
Hopefully she will move on to a more suitable boyfriend.
He may force her to choose between him and the Aboriginal friend.
It's tough, but better she learns about this behaviour now,rather than later.