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What time do your kids go to bed?

How long does it take to put them to bed,their routine and their ages?

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I think anything past 8pm for any child is too late. My children are in bed by 7, may take them a while to fall asleep sometimes but definitely not running a muck until 10pm. They sleep really well that way too, full of energy the next day, eat all their meals. I find waking up at 9-10 in the morning such a waste of a morning though so bedtime for us is really strict to get out children into good habits.

 Any child? Really? My 13, 15 and 16 year old are still children. They certainly dont go to bed at 8.
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 Yes even at that age, sleep is still important. We were in bed by 830 all through high school. People underestimate the importance of sleep and they pass that on to their children so the cycle continues.
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 It isn't the time they go to sleep that matters it is that they get enough sleep.
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 How do they get enough sleep when they're up until 10? They can sleep in on weekends I suppose but what a waste of a morning. Their body clocks would be out of whack.
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 Any child ? Really? Lol bit of a naive generalisation - hours they get not time they get them are more important. My 4 and 6 year old have adjusted 2 and 3 times for the last 2 years it's it's been 930 and 10:00 pm and sleep 10 and. A half to 12 hours ... I work all day and so night time is my time I spend if they went to bed at 7 I would see my kids maybe an hour a day. This way I spend 4-5 hours a day every day with them.
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 It's not naive at all. Children need proper rest. It's unfair for 4-5 year olds, toddlers, kids in general to be up all night and waste their morning away sleeping in and having breakfast at 10am because that is what is convenient for adults. What a waste to grow up to be teenagers and spending all week at school tired, and all weekend in bed until 12pm.
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 lol^ completely naive to other people's lives
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 Usually I say each to their own, every family does what is right for them, but I have to agree that would seriously screw up their body clocks, not just sleep but eating and play as well
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 Well it's not dark till about 830 here at the moment and so damn hot every day, actually a lot of my friends kids have these bed times ... And it works with my and hubbies work...
Even if I wanted to put them to bed at 7:00 ( bright daylight at the moment) there's no way they would go to sleep till at least 8-810 (we've had this routine before.)
7:00/730 we have dinner as family 8:00 bath and books when they go to bed it takes about 5 minutes to fall asleep cod the heat drops off with the sun. Again- naive to people who live different lives to you ( and different places )

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 That's where your role as a parent comes in and you dictate their bedtime, not them do it for themselves. No child doctor will tell you that growing children should be kept up because it's convenient for their parents. I bet your kids get grumpy, don't eat well and are not happy in general. That's where sleep helps.
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 Again completely naive -
My kids actually eat mostly plant based with the expect ion of fish their dad catches.
I would be willing to bet their diet is healthier than 95% of kids- in fact if I told you what I won't allow you'll probably turn around and say I'm too strict.
The are extremely bright kids with more energy than I can handle some days .
They get 10-12 hours sleep at night and and extremely well behaved children.

Keep talking - your ignorance continues to shine

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 ^ those who shout the loudest..
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 ^ those who repeat exactly the same thing...
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 Lol so much judgement and holier than though in one comment- and my 2 month old goes to bed at 630 and wakes at 530... My 3 year old goes to bed at 7 and wakes between 6 and 7. But I agree it's an ignorant implication anything else is irresponsible without looking at the whole picture
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Not early enough 😦

 Haha, I start clock watching at 5pm
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My children are 8 & 9, they usually go to bed at 7:30 but on Mon, Tues, Weds & Sun during My kitchen rules season they stay up until 8:30. They're obsessed LOL it's our thing to watch it together.

 Gah I hate that it's on at 7.30 😫 That's the time I'm getting the kids to bed so I always miss at least the first half. Last year they just stayed up later but we have school this year.
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15 months. Around 830. 3 years around 10pm. He is a night time person. He sleeps in. We are working on getting him back to 9pm.

 So late for both of them.
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 My son is 3yrs and bedtime is also 10pm. Hubby works night shift so having our son sleep in works well for us now. We will change the schedule though when he reaches school age.
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 My daughter was the same and adjusted very well to a new schedule for school.
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 That is really late for such young children. That will be a really tough habit to break. It's important to start at birth so their body get accustomed to it.
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 my 3 and 4 year old in bed by 730
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 Late for you not for us. I am happy to put my children to bed when I wish. I'm their mother.
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 My 11 month old goes to bed at 8. Any earlier and she just screams the house down.
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 Lol have to laugh at the 'I'm their mother I can put them to bed when it suits me even though it affects their growth and development" comment.
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 ^ lol those who shout the loudest..
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 I am their mother. They still get 12 hours sleep which is the recommended for their ages. They stay up later and sleep in so they get to see and spend time with their father. He leaves early mornings and gets home late. Would you much prefer that my children see their father for 10 minutes a day and have your early bed time? I don't see the harm in having them up late to spend time with him and sleeping in till 10am. Their rooms are blocked out also. This is bs that you have to be a judgemental beep without knowing why. But better yet. Its bs that you pass judgement regardless. Worry about your own children.
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 Just because you have a reason to eg. See their dad, that doesn't make the routine healthy or that it won't screw with their body clocks..
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 ^it won't because it is routine every single day. It would be different if I changed the bed times and wake up times but I don't. It is the same day in day out. Even for Christmas I let them sleep until 10am which is their wake up time and everyone else had to wait or open their presents without my children. Nothing changes for anyone.
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 By 10am my kids are already having snacks after spending the morning playing or being at the beach. What happens at school age when they have to be up at 6-7?! Anyway each to their own. I personally find it irresponsible for any parent to keep their child up, especially so young, just because it's easiest for them. Did you know waking up anytime after 7 actually counts as the next day's sleep, not the night before? But then Im mindful about having lazy teenagers to sleep all day, or don't have much want to do anything but play games. Or tired kids with no routine or structure.
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 I'm the commenter on the other thread- you all really are being naive to the fact that other people have different lives to you. My kids are home schooled so their dad starts lessons at 11:00 every day-
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 Omg don't even get me started on the rest of your ways. Let's just agree to disagree ✌🏻️
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 Lol what a teacher teaching his own kidand friends kids in a small environment 4 kids to one teacher...Horrible parenting!!!!
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 Maybe everyone should have a glass of wine, bubble bath and mind their own business.
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My kids are 8 and 11 and go to bed at 7.45pm. They are both active and sporty kids so some nights when they are really tired they will send themselves off to bed earlier. They wake between 7 and 7.30am.

I have a 3 & 4 year old, bed routine starts at 645, in bed at 7, asleep at 715. Works perfectly at the moment. Both awake between 6-7 am

My kids are 8,7 & 5. We have tea at 5pm, bath at 5.30pm, readers/stories and quiet time with a piece of fruit until 6.45pm then brush teeth, fill water bottles and go to the toilet. All in bed by 7pm and asleep by 7.30 at the very latest. They wake up sometime between 6am and 6.30am. I have done this since my oldest was born. It works great for us. Sometimes it alters for sporting activities etc.

I'm a 13yr old girl, and Mum makes me in bed at 7:30 at schoolnigts, lights off at 7:45pm. Same time as my 10yr old sister (we share a room). I hate this early betime, but sadly, Mum won't change it. All my classmates can stay up later!

ANY BEDTIME DIFFERENT TO MINE MAKES YOU A TERRIBLE PARENT!!! YOUR CHILDREN WILL DEFINITELY NOT LIVE PAST 25!!

Do what works for your family. You don't need to justify it. You don't need to judge anyone that does something different.

We do dinner baths and bed. Treat comes after dinner if it's all eaten or they make a decent attempt.
1 week old sleeps when she wants too lol and nearly 2yo and 4yo share a room and both in bed by 730.

15mnths, 3 and 5 all in bed at 7.00. The older 2 share a double bed, so I feed the youngest to sleep while I read stories then leave them while I put Bub down in my room. They're all asleep by 7.30.

Mine are 6 and 10. They both participate in martial arts 4 nights a week and the end time varies, depending on the class, anywhere from 7:30-8:30. They get ready for bed shortly after getting home. One is awake usually by 7:30, the other 8:00.

Mine are 1 and 3 and they are in bed between 6-6:30, sometimes if we have dinner late maybe 7 at the very latest. They are up at 6:30-7 am. We do dinner , daddy time (he plays or reads or just cuddles) bath, milk and bed.

2 & 3.5yr old. In bed at 6:30pm. They usually read to themselves or chat for 10, 15mins and then are asleep. They're awake between 5:30-6am

Dinner at 6 then bath at 630 warm milk and book by 7 brush teeth and in bed before or by 730. They wake between 7 and 8. It's not always bang on, but that's what I aim for and some nights are harder than others. Meh life's too short to worry too much about the small things 😊 mine are 3 and 18m.