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How old is too old for a baby?

Watching the news, I saw a lady in Tasmania gave birth to her first child and she was 62. So how old is too old to have a baby?

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I think if you are relying on ivf to get pregnant because you have left it too late (ie over mid 40s) then you are too old. But if you fall pregnant naturally and you are over 40 then its not too old.

 Did you actually read what she said? She said if you're having ivf because you have waited to have children and can't fall pregnant (ie over mid 40). She said nothing about a 28 year old with other difficulties. Actually read before you go dropping C bombs!
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 Think someone needs glasses

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 Should have gone to Specsavers
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I think the research shows over 45 things get significantly more risky. So I would say over 45 is a bit selfish.
Saying that, I was lucky enough to find the love of my life at 21 and get married and have all our children before 30...not everyone is that lucky.

late 40's I reckon is too old for biological kids. Squeeze em in (or out) before you hit 45. Just my opinion.

 I think so too.
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As a Tasmanian I find it funny that she had to go to the mainland to get the c-section. We really are twenty years behind, lol.

 Same here my mum had to fly to main land to have me lol and I'm now 30.
Which part are you from

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 They do cesareans in Tasmania! I imagine she would have went back to her ivf dr/gyno to have them perform it.
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OP She had to go overseas to get implanted. Doctors here won't do IVF after a certain age because of the risks associated with pregnancy as we get older.
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I can't even imagine the heartbreak of being denied a child for so many years. IVF is such a blessing for people in her situation. If she was willing to go through the cost, the physical toll of bearing a child so late in life, and now of raising the child, good for her!

I hate the argument "She'll probably be dead in ten years, leaving a child without a mother." In that case, do you block someone with a terminal illness from having a child? Their only chance to bring a baby into the world, to bring them such joy for however long they have left? Will that child regret ever being born? Do the children of fatal car accident victims think their parents were selfish for bringing them into the world?

 Having a baby when your terminally ill is incredibly selfish. You say that it will bring them such joy, but thats not fair on the child. Sure you could die anytime eg in a car accident but knowing your going to die before the child is ready to face the world by itself is selfish on your part.
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 I think they're probably too old, but yes, the heartache she's likely endured over the past however many years - screw it, if that family knows love and happiness for even a little while, it's gotta be better than the heartache of nothing.
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It's a tough one, while i think 60's is to old to have a child i can't see how you would go about stopping it i mean thinking of the bigger picture if we can stop people who can mentally and financially look after a child in a loving home why can't we stop a drug addicted homeless person having a child?

I think the fact that this baby was conceived through IVF is the thing that is putting most people off, while we love our modern technology deep down we know messing with nature like this is a dangerous precedent, creating a life where one couldn't naturally be created really irks us for what seems like no reason at all.... good luck to them i hope it all turns out well because we can debate all we want but at the end of the day there is a child and so long as she is happyhappy and thriving nothing we say matters.

Personally i cant phathom having a baby so late in life. The energy and effort it requires! The fact the father is so old makes me cringe a little because i cannot see him able to help much by the way of playtime/fun activities. My own parents tire out after about 4 hours with the kids. So 24 hrs 7 days a week would be so full on to someone 20 years OLDER than they are. I dont understand why it is debated. Lets just sit back and actually see the first hand results of older parentage and then make judgement shall we? ie. Lets ask the kids how they faired when they reach adulthood. Won't be long now... ivf has been giving elderly couples babies for about 10 years now.

Wheres the question about the Dad - he was 78

 She said what age is too old for a baby not what is too old to become a mother..

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OP I only heard the mother's age on the news because I was busy. I was also curious about the pregnancy age because that can impact on both mum and baby's health.
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 No - she specified the mothers age. Thats my point, the fact that the news focussed on the mums age too. Everyone vilifies the mother when the dad was significantly older. He is NOT the biological dad either.
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I really think this depends on the individual. How healthy you are, both physically and emotionally. I know these new parents are grandparent aged, but plenty of grandparents are left to raise their grandkids for one reason or another do so successfully. So I wish them all the best.

 They are around the same age as my kids great grandparents!
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 right, so you are 10 then?
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If she's it and healthy she could do her 18 years... then he will be an adult ? looking after her self. But if she were to pass away when the daughter was under 30 it would be pretty sad to lose your mum at a young age.

When you go through menopause or can not conceive. I don’t believe in ivf (my sister and two cousins plus an aunt conceived via ivf , I have never commented to them)

Thank you everyone for your opinions and for keeping it respectful. This has to be one of the best threads with all these answers and others accepting that other people will have a different opinion. It is interesting to read what everyone thinks.

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I think 62 is a bit too old for a newborn. I work in a nursing home where we have a decent percentage of people in their 60s, so I think 50 would be my cut off for giving birth to a baby

35 and under is ideal. 35-40 acceptable. Over 40 is selfish.

 Nice try, troll. By the way, older mothers actually live longer
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 Older mothers live longer?? 😂
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 The fact that you laughed at that prove how little you actually know
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 http://www.bionews.org.uk/page_432720.asp
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 https://www.theguardian.com/society/2007/oct/28/parenthood
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 http://time.com/2922235/mothers-birth-pregnancy-aging/

feel sillyl yet?

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