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Ok, so, if a woman has a child in secret to an ex partner, then gives that child up for adoption without his knowledge that the child ever existed can she get in trouble for that?? No it's not me, it's a story I have heard and I can't get it out of my head.


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Look it up if you want to know the legalities of it.

“If a father's name is not on the birth certificate, he has no legal rights to the child, according to Law Info. Although he may be the biological father, he is not the legal father because his name has been omitted from the legal document. The legal document may list the father as someone else, unknown, or left blank. Because the father is not listed on the birth certificate he has no rights to custody, visitation, or paying child support.”

 They don’t want to know the actual answer. They want to fight about men’s rights and create unnecessary fear regarding choice.
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If he is not on the birth certificate nope he is not held responsible for the child and therefore she can’t get in trouble

 Yes she can get in trouble if she didn't notify him she was pregnant and put the baby up for adoption. I don't think you can legally put a baby up for adoption without both parents consenting without going through the courts
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 She is under no legal obligation to inform the male she is pregnant. She is also under no legal obligation to put his name on the birth certificate therefore she can make the decision as she sees fit without any repercussions.
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 Not if she wants to put the baby up for adoption. The father has rights too.
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 So your telling me the one night stands that result in a baby the woman decides to put it up for adoption she has to find that random person just to make sure he is on board with the adoption?! No that’s ridiculous
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 Why are you denying that male rights to be a father
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 Yes She has to make an attempt to find the father. Imagine if you never knew you got someone pregnant, they put the baby up for adoption then you found out years later but wanted to be involved with the child. Imagine what that would put the adopted family and child through. Any woman putting a child up for adoption should make every effort possible to locate the father to give him the choice. He might want to raise the child. He deserves that chance as much as the mother does
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 I can’t say for other states, but I’m Queensland the mother absolutely has to put the father on the birth certificate unless they meet one of the exemptions (father won’t sign; father unknown; father unable to be found).
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Short answer - no. She cannot get in any legal trouble. Do you think an adoption agency would skimp on their legal obligations? Whether he deserves to know or not is a different question.

The maternal rights allow a woman to abort without the fathers consent, and also to adopt out without his consent. If she puts “father unknown” on the birth certificate, he has no rights regarding the child. If he is aware of a child that may be his, he can request a paternity test, but if the woman is not seeking compensation from him, she can refuse to have her child tested.

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 Lying to say you don’t know who the father is and that you attempted to locate him is fraud
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 To say the father is unknown you have to sign a stat dec, if you are caught lying you will be in trouble. It comes down to whether you think you will get caught.
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 Whilst I agree it is fraud but honestly who is going to police birth certificates and if you do or do not know the father?
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 Ticking the “father unknown” on a birth certificate does not involve a stat declaration. Get a clue.
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 I had to sign a stat Dec stating the father was unknown.
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In this day and age he can if he finds out bring legal proceedings against her as he does have parental rights

He could try to sue her I guess, but it's unlikely that he would win. She could simply say he was abusive and it was in the child's best interest. My child's father doesn't know he exists, and unless I get my child's DNA tested for tracing my family tree there is no way the father could possibly find out.

 Father’s have sued and won many times
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 For what?
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 You can take mum to court for visitation, but not sure her for compensation.
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