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I looked after.. well just listened out for the baby of the lady next to me while she went to shower for this exact reason! She was a very young first time mum and bawling her eyes out because she didn't know what to do. Some nurses are total fu****g assholes.
Aww hun i feel for you! My hospital were great if bubs was asleep i just let them know to keep an ear out for her. In saying that they cannot deny you that right to shower. Midwives are there to look after mum and bub. I would call again or wait till next shift nurse and i would honestly put in a complaint to the unit manager. You're body has been through a battlefield mentally and physically the last thing you should have to stress about is feeling clean. Good luck hun- if you want tell me the hospital and ill put in a complaint too! Lol xxxx
Op here- i had a shower!!! Last night after reading everyones advice and then went to sleep for awhile. I just left the door open to the bathroom and parked her near it. All good and feeling great now :) i spoke to a different midwife about the cranky one and she was really disappointed i was treated like that. She said i should have been offered a shower after bubs was born because blood is germy etc... unfortunately the cranky nurses hubby has recently passed away and isnt dealing well. The nice nurse said she shouldn't be working so soon bcoz she isnt coping. Im glad i didnt complain :) goes to show everyone has problems theyre dealing with
Can the dad watch her?
Yeah i think i will. She said steam isnt good for the baby so not to take her in there- unfortunatly I really want a hot fricking shower to burn away all this feeling im feeling- the yuck, exhausted, dirty feeling. She is still asleep- might wheel her near bathroom door and leave it open abit. Mmm some nurses are crabby fu**s hey! I know its not their job to babysit as she put it but f**k im sitting here with dry blood all over my boobs down to my vag!!! Im off for a shower- she can suck a dick hahaha! Thanks though just feeling overwhelmed right now and confused about life... just need afew mins to cleanse and think/not think :)
Take the cot into the bathroom. Or as someone else said, ask a different nurse. Honestly some nurses are just bi****s. And I know. because I am a nurse.
In the hospitals I gave birth in, The nurses took my baby to the nursery while I had a shower. Just wait until the shift changes and then ask.
Honestly shut your main door, leave the bathroom door open with the baby close enough to see/hear and just have a shower. Or ask a different nurse, they're not all usually like that!!!
I took my kids in with me in their cot thingy. If you can't, I don't know how you are expected to shower. I had stitches and was told to have 3 showers a day, I didn't have enough visitors for 3 showers and the midwives told me to just take my baby in with me. I'm not sure what you are meant to do with what the midwife has told you.
I didn't ask, just took a shower! Closed main door, left bathroom door open a bit so I could see her. Of course she started wailing as soon as I got under the water! She was one of those babies that cry unless being held 24/7. I just rushed through my shower and picked her back when I was finished. She can't fall out of the cot and was obviously still breathing!
That's terrible. I would just try another nurse, maybe you caught them at a busy time. Babies are very susceptible to pneumonia, that's why the steam isn't good for their tiny lungs. Remember they just came up for air after 9 mos under water. If you have your own room and the baby is asleep just leave your bathroom door open a bit and shower quickly.
I left my daughter in the room asleep while I had a shower. I was only like 2 metres away. and shes asleep....
It's their duty of care to look after you.