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I, too, have always been curious about it. None of my friends, or family, smoke so I never really got a chance to try it. My next door neighbor, though, is a smoker. It took me awhile to get up the nerve, since she knows me as an athletic type bicyclist, and when she apologized to me for smoking (out on her pool patio whilst surrounded by her family yet) I told her to go ahead and that I was always curious myself. She immediately beamed a bright smile and asked me if I'd like to try one then. It was rather disgusting and, as I was choking on it, she laughed quite loudly.
Over time, she would offer me one when she had one and we were outside talking. I eventually got used to them, even to the point where I started understanding their allure. In fact, I grew to enjoy them and bought my own. I don't smoke heavily, perhaps 5-10 a day now, but it does happen (I'm 38 and "started" about 6 months ago) and we're now "smoking buddies" much to her delight and, yes, she doesn't apologize anymore, thankfully.
I know the negatives and will probably stop when I get tired of them but I'm happy that I now satisfied an almost lifelong curiosity despite what I feel, now, is an addiction. In fact, being addicted is what makes them so satisfying, I've discovered. :)
1st one: yes, as I already stated in my original post, I found out quickly that satisfying the cravings is very pleasurable. The only issue is when I want to smoke where smoking isn't permitted. I don't like going to movies now, unfortunately.
2nd: Yes, still smoking and realize what so many before me have found out, Because we now live together, I'm now smoking more than I was during the original post, probably because we've moved in together. I started smoking pretty much when she did. It sort of became a cue for me and, eventually, I got up to my current level, probably around one or slightly more than a pack each day, especially when on weekends and holidays when we're together more. I don't really know how much now because we're always smoking from each other's packs. It could be more than one pack now.
Now I'd like to quit but, living together, it's really not going to happen soon.
I understand that most newly addicted smokers smoking rate gradually rises to 1 - 1/2 packs per day
since nicotine levels apparently gradually fall so that around 45 - 60 minutes the cravings start.
Of course the consquences of addiction is the need to satisfy the cravings which can bring pleasure and
suffering from the consequences of withdrawl when delaying smoking.
However, the addiction is a demanding & relentless master continually on duty 24/7.
How does it feel to have much of your consciousness dominated by the need to smoke approximately every hour or more frequently?
Does the addiction wake you at night to smoke to satisfy a craving?
How do you feel now that you've given up control to the addiction and can't stop submitting to it?
Did you have any idea before become addicted that being submissive to a new master would be so rewarding?
Hi. I started at 37. I am now 44. My husband hated it at first, he refused to touch me or kiss me for months! It was horrible. I was really anti smoking before I started. My husband cooled and now he loves watching me smoke. I smoke about a pack a day now. The smoke causes my heart to beat faster and I love how relaxed I feel..our lovemaking has increased which is not a bad thing. I love my after sex cigarette, my husband's head resting on my breast. I am a runner and still in pretty good shape although I smoke!
My wife got a new job 5 years into our marriage and it was a stressful but very rewarding job as it pretty much doubled her salary and she started smoking and wearing high heels everyday. It took a little getting use to her breath when kissing, but I don’t mind it now, she actually looks sexier now smoking and wearing high heels all the time.
She started smoking again when she was in her late 40s just because it was politically incorrect and she “wanted to grow old disgracefully”.
I found it incredibly sexy when she came home with a pack of ciggies and lit up at bedtime. I absolutely love seeing her smoke, particularly if she is naked or scantily clad. The smell of tobacco in her hair is quite a turn on. Smoking, along with a couple of small tattoos, has perked up our sex life no end.
Tell her. It might talk some sense into her. I've left someone 3 years into the relationship because he started smoking. I was so embarrassed to be with him, and hated being seen in public with him, with him spending half the night outside the bar, restaurant , etc puffing away. So gross.
Just go and light up, make your day and that of those having to put up with your attitude which stinks more than any smoke ever could.
Maybe check her phone or emails.
I think women do this later on because they've given up so much of themselves being mums & wives that they want to rebel. I get it. They want a guilty little pleasure to themselves.
Is it the same as a partner putting on weight? Why is it unacceptable to leave someone for that but ok for smoking. Both are difficult to control and started after marriage?
Do you love her really? Or are you just going to trade her for a model that doesn't smoke? What happens if she put on weight? Are you going to be one of those men that demands she lose the baby weight after 6 months or you'll devoice her? Part of marriage is learning to accept each others faults. Does she complain about the size of your penis, the way you're going bald? Your big nose?
I’m in my mid 30s and secretly love smoking. I do it in hiding so I have to vape. My favorites for NJOYs. I feel really sexy smoking and it makes me horny while doing so. I make love to my husband more since vaping. I feel more confident, sexy and it relaxes me. When the kids are gone and my husband I smoke all day. I wish I could smoke real cigarettes the the smell is to strong. I love inhaling deep and watching the smoke come out of my mouth. I wish I could smoke during sex. Ugh it’s so good! I love everything about it !
There's always a reason why people smoke. Smoking is a symptom, not a cause.
Encourage her (suggest names, make the appointment?) to see a counsellor to talk through what's bothering her.
If my husband started smoking I'd leave. Filthy, scabby, derelict habit. Smokers are selfish morons.
Well, many adult women simply enjoy smoking they like the 120s and there cute cigarette cases and fancy lighters.. my wife has smoked since her mom let her when she was 15. My rule is only 7, 120s a day or 10, 109s. They must be lights. I woud just put limits on her smoking. Never in house. Everyone used to smoke in the 90s. Let her have her enjoyment with controls.
Yes, health effect is a serious worry, however, if it's controled to 5 or 6 a day , she most likely will be fine provided she quited before 50.
Let her enjoy her smokes. In force controls.
Maybe she took it up because she knows you hate it and wants you to leave her
Just a note. Most women enjoy the 120s. Remeber, they are really about 2, regulars cigarettes. My wife tried pulling that over me as well. A 120 is not a normal 5 min smoke. It's a 15 min prosess.