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My husband is a neat freak, and everything must be in place. When we had our first he struggled with the mess, he complained once, I just said as you can see im doing this then that, then I'm going to have a nap, but you are welcome to clean up yourself.
We now have three and the house hasn't been tidy in 7 years, he got used to it.
I really feel for you. Once you have that baby, it will be your first priority over cleaning dinner dishes etc.
In time, you will learn to juggle both, as keeping the house clean will keep you organised, sane and the whole family happy and healthy.
However, he will need to lower his expectations for this to work.
Having a baby changes everything and no two days are the same. Some days your on top of the world and got meals ready for the week, clean house, washing put away, etc other days you are sleep deprived, Havnt had a shower for days or forgot to eat all day because of whatever bubs kept you busy with.
It's important for your partner to show support by being compassionate, loving, understanding and even use his own initiative to help you by doing the dishes
even if he's been at work all day.
I hope you both find your way to common ground. At this stage in your journey, he should be more concerned about keeping you comfortable and healthy and doing what he can to help, rather than a dirty dish on the sink... good luck
Make him do it all and then see how fussy he is. That’s really not fair on you, it’s bloody hard having a newborn. We lived on frozen meals for the first few months with our second. Between endless feeding, bottle cleaning and barely any sleep there is just no time for anything for a while
Go out for breakfast on partners day off with bubs and tell hubby you cook tonight and wash dishes
I would talk to my GP and take it from there