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Depends how you are projecting that onto your kids it can be a emotional abuse if you are really making them feel guilty about it and manipulating them to live closer.
Your kids will get partners eventually and they will work out where they want to live there life.. they shouldn’t have to be forced to live near you.
Yes hand everything to your kids so they never learn to work hard for anything. Great parenting.
My mum tried to cling on it was so much pressure & responsibility, I hated it! Then had a talk about me minding her in her old age. Ffs Leave me be! Smothered & barely speak now I’m so much happier.
But her point was too much clingyness pushed her away from her mother. Which I'm guessing was not intention of mother.
Or perhaps it was? Who knows
Let them fly the nest. That is the only way they will learn to be responsible and stand on their own feet. Their memories of how you treated them as kids will either bring them back to you, or drive them away.
And how you treat their partners will have an enormous bearing on if they want to live close to you again.
All things being equal, if girls have a strong relationship with their mother, they will want to live close enough to their Mum to be able to have their support during pregnancy and early childhood years.
I keep telling my parents I'm going to build another house in their backyard and live in that. You should do that for your kids
If you're going to buy a house anyway then I think it's a good you're thinking of your kids one day living in it. Plenty of rich parents buy investments near uni's with their kids futures in mind. But I think it's wrong if you expect them to live in it forever, it's a great idea as a first home while they get used to being independent and gives them a chance to save up for their own home.
I’d hate to live near my parents. But if they bought me a house I’d take it!
Don’t worry it’s only natural :) hubby and I will also be buying our 2 sons a house right near us because we’re all very close...my eldest is 16 and likes the idea (hopefully his wife by then will agree lol)
How old are they?