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The real question here OP is why do you give a toss?
Leave the lady alone.
My kids have a photo of their dad and i from 'when we loved each other' i gave it to them to remind them they were made with love. Nothing on the walls
It sounds totally normal...
On a completely unrelated topic, I would just make sure all doors are locked and no one is creeping in your wardrobe or stealing your husband's undies off the line.
I think its really weird that she has photos just of him. My kids have pics of them with their dad in their bedrooms but I dont have any on display ... I have no desire to see his face. I totally get why you think it is strange.
Unless you have been inside the house and have actually seen the photos for yourself, you can't be sure that it is even true. Maybe there are a couple of photos up for the child's benefit and whoever gossiped to you was exaggerating.
While I can understand it's definitely odd I think it's great for their daughter to have the photos up. It's her house too and her dad is a major part of her life. If my husband and I spilt I would keep photos up of him as it is my sons dad and he is an important part of his life.
I kept my exes shoes I like to have a big manly pair next to each door to ward off robbers haha his foot was really large and it makes me feel better about living alone
How is she supposed to move on with them ariund the house . If a new bloke rocked up and saw that i thibk he would run
Yeah that's weird. I have no desire to have photos of my ex husband and as the one currently splitting photos I have made the decision with him that wedding photos, family photos, etc will be split between the girls. I was fortunate that when my youngest was 6 weeks old we had family portraits taken, due to him being in hospital he wasn't able to be in them!!! I also have a friend doing us a set of portraits later this year so I will have updated ones of the girls and I. I found out wedding and engagement cards etc the other week and they will also be packaged up for the girls. I don't hate my ex but I sure don't want him hanging on my walls!!!
I framed photos of my twins with their dad and gave them to them to put on their new bedside tables when they were putting all their bits on there.
One shoved theirs in their cupboard with their socks. The other just stared blankly at me and told me it was really nice I had gone to the effort and asked me if he could change the photo. When he found a new photo of him & his twin alone he put the other photo in the bin!
We broke up due to domestic violence when they were babies and never had pictures around the house even when we were together.
My girls have photos of their dad and them together in their bedrooms and one on the fridge. We've been separated 3 years.
I think it's weird she has so many including ones of just him.
I was surprised at some of the negative responses on here! I think the lady on this thread is merely asking what other people’s boundaries are and if they are ok with this? I was shocked when I found out as I thought it crossing a healthy boundary when the kids are already confused.
The alternate is just as awkward, my mum kept all the photos since she loved them, but she awkwardly cut my dad out of all of them then re-hung them. It was obvious what she had done , unless you want to get rid of all the photos there isnt much else to do. keeping all of them for the kids is a nice idea But those pictures also show a big part of your life especially those photos with their child, i can understand her wanting to keep them aswell, as wierd as it is.
You can't control or tell her what she has in her house happy memories were made without you not a big deal ots nice for the kids that they left them up
She may be struggling to move on and the photos are memories of a happier time.
I guess she may still grieve for what was and maybe these pictures give her child comfort when they aren't with dad.
I don't find it odd, but if it was me I would have removed them and put them in an album.
However I can understand pictures around the house say if he had died.
As long as it doesn't bother you and it's not causing issues in your relationship id just accept it for whatever it is.
I wouldn't do it either. I suppose it would be difficult if they were family photos including children. My step mother was very thoughtful - she collected all the photos of my mum and dad and labelled two manilla envelopes for my brother and I. She split them up as fairly as she could (before digital photos!!) so that we each got wedding photos and such. She then popped them in a drawer until we were old enough to look after them ourselves.
As for keeping photos of your ex on display, it just feels like she hasn't moved on.